How To Help Your Child If He Is A Bully?

It's very easy to judge others but finding our own faults is something that almost all of us find very difficult. Similarly, it's easy to say that bad parenting is what makes a child bully. In some cases, this is true: parents are the role models after all. So, we can easily put blame on parents for this wrong behavior of the kid or young one. However, we can't even think of our own kids to be bullies. I have seen bullies with very noble and kind parents. Whether parents are cause of this negative behavior or not, they can help their child correct this negative behavior.

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How Does A Child Become A Bully?

There could be one or several reasons that helps a child become a bully. Here are few of them:

- Children Learn From Their Parents

Children are very keen observers and they keep learning from their environment. This environment has a great influence on their growth. They try to imitate their parents because they are role models for them. If a child sees his parents to be kind to others, he will try to be like his parents. If he sees his parents bullying others, he will think it's fine to do so and will start acting like that.

- Powerless Kids Are More Likely To Become Bullies

As I mentioned earlier, the environment of a home plays a key role in development of a positive or negative behavior and kids readily adopt that behavior. If the environment in a home is full of abuse where one of the parents abuse the other one or may be, child is abused, then that child will develop the feeling of being powerless. He will try to gain this power back by copying his parent's behavior and bullying other children.

- Children Who Are Full Of Power Are More Likely To become Bully

These children are the exact opposite of the powerless children because their parents fulfill all their desires both good and bad ones. Their parents give them all the power to believe that they can run the world as per their desires and it will be just fine. They will start believing that it is fine to hit or attack other children because they like it and they have the power to do so. Parents are equally responsible for developing this kind of behavior in kids.

- Children With lack of Empathy

This is the type of bullies who actually belong to nice families and whose parents teach them good behaviors. However, lack of empathy makes them want power and dominance on others. Luckily, empathy is not something that we can't teach our kids.

How To Deal With Bullying?

The #1 tool of a bully is isolation. We must teach our kids to ask for help when someone is bullying them. Asking for help will solve this problem. Here are some useful videos from experts who guide us to deal with bullying:

Dr. Phil's Advice For Dealing With Bullying

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Tony Robbins On How To Deal With Bullying

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