I do value politeness, but sadly, I too often reserve my best behaviour for others and allow my family to see me at my worst. This was a great reminder that the best way to teach our children the qualities we want them to possess -- not just politeness, but compassion, empathy, determination, etc. -- is through leading by example.
And in order to lead by example, we need to be present with our children, as our best selves.
I couldn't agree more. However, when we fail at it, and we all do from time to time, there is an important lesson to be taught there too. Only by seeing us, the adults take responsibility of our actions and apologise to our spouse or children when need be, will our children learn the power of remorse and a sincere apology.