Useful and Unconventional Ways to Become Better Person Today
The method was created by Australian psychiatrist George Blair-West. He has been married for over 30 years and suggests repeating three key steps to build a strong relationship. First, trust your partner and believe they won’t betray you.
When sharing something personal and sensitive, trust that they won’t use it against you. Second, test that trust by revealing a secret you wouldn’t want others to know. Third, grow closer by practicing the first two steps often, knowing your partner cares about you even with your flaws.
If you’re anxious about having a tough talk with your partner or don’t want to share something important, think of the love triangle method. The best way to make a relationship stronger is to accept your human side and talk about what bothers you.
Many people avoid conflict, trying not to cause problems or awkward moments. Comedian John Mulaney jokes, “You can spill hot soup on me, and I’ll probably apologize,” which shows how some try to avoid disputes.
Luvvie Ajayi Jones, who calls herself a troublemaker, says avoiding conflict is not something to be proud of. Instead, she believes that speaking openly about your views is important. You can’t help improve the world or solve big issues if you always follow the rules quietly. Silence often doesn’t lead to change.
Standing up for what you believe is a step toward progress. It doesn’t mean you’re difficult or uncooperative. Before speaking out, Ajayi suggests asking yourself three questions. If all answers are “yes,” it’s safe to voice your opinion. Use this method whenever you sense something is wrong. If a friend tells a questionable joke, talk to them instead of just laughing. If you see someone on the street looking lost, ask if they need help instead of assuming they’re okay.
Getting used to feeling uncomfortable in small situations will help you handle bigger issues better. It makes it easier to make the right choices when it truly matters.
Frans Johansson, author of The Medici Effect, studies how new ideas become popular. He found that small improvements often lead to big breakthroughs. Imagine working on landline phones in 1970. Making them 10% better would seem simple. But proposing to make phones work without wires would seem crazy then. Now we see which idea was more useful.
To find new solutions, try ignoring obvious answers and quick ideas. Break your usual way of thinking. Set unusual goals and come up with lots of bad ideas. This helps boost your creativity and open your mind.
Good conversation skills are useful both personally and professionally. To create engaging and meaningful talks, you must focus on listening and sharing, not just talking. Remember, a real conversation involves two-way exchange.