Why Do Some People Never Start Doing the Things They Want?

in mindset •  2 months ago

Hello, dear friends!

The title of today’s blog post is a question, and I am willing to bet that as soon as you read it, your mind raced with many ideas as to why this phenomenon occurs.

A lot of you are thinking about fear. And you would be right. Fear is a powerful sedative for a seeking mind. It obscures your thought and tramples on your willingness to do what must be done.

We can safely assume that many dreamers have forsaken their pursuit out of fear and dread. But that is not what I am going to talk about today.


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I will make my point by reviewing a conversation that I had with one of my friends many years ago. She wanted to get into journalism and work her way up to becoming a senior editor for a magazine or newspaper.

‘It is a wonderful dream,’ I told her. ‘But it is going to be a long and difficult road.’

She pondered on my point for a moment.

‘I understand. Nothing is ever easy. I am willing to go through the pain if it means that I will reach my goal.’

Months and months went by and nothing of the sort you would expect happened.

You might have thought that she would become some sort of journalist or writer in the many months that followed.

Some of you think that she must have at least taken some steps.

But no, nothing of the sort happened!


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‘I don’t understand why you are still bartending in that place.’ I told her one day.

‘I really want to start working for a publication or magazine, but I don’t have much experience,’

She said, with a hint of guilt in her voice.

‘I need to start writing on a regular basis, but I don’t know what about!’

‘Just write about anything you like. Where were you planning to write anyway?’

I asked her. Silence followed the end of that conversation, and I thought a long while about the thing that she had said to me.

I am never the sort of person to judge someone, but her lack of trying was something that I thought about for a long time, because I knew that she wasn’t a lazy person.


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My friend didn’t know what to write about, but that was never so much of a good excuse to ease my mind into sympathy and support.

I knew better than that. No one ever showed me the way. I found my own way.

I don’t necessarily believe that everyone should work out the way of life on their own. It is true; some people need help and tutoring. But that can also be a problematic mindset, because it gives way to unwillingness.

Why did she not start writing and learning about the craft in the many months that followed our conversation?

She said that she didn’t know where to start.

But if you ask me, it was never a question of knowledge. It was just a matter of unwillingness.

The idea that you may want something, but not enough to put yourself through the trouble of achieving it.


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Some people never start doing the things they want, but that is not necessarily because they are afraid or simply lazy.

They won’t start because they are not willing to do what they have to do.

Starting something without knowledge or a straight path is a wearisome struggle, but that CANNOT stop a person who truly wants to gain that thing.

It is just a matter of priority.

Think about your own priorities.

What are the things that you have always wanted to started, but simply found yourself unwilling to do so?

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Good morning,
it's not only to have a dream, we have to change the dream into a plan and follow and work for that plan step by step and day by day.
The imagination of the goal we
have can help, we can draw a picture or can print it, put it in front of our bed, our notebook, in our car or just as a screensaver on our mobile.
Our subconscious will recognize it and will work for our dream come true.
Have a great day
Tom

I am on a journey of enjoying life! Sure everyone has to work to make a living in some way, but enjoy what you do. Sometimes, my corporate job can really take it out of me, but overall, I am extremely blessed with my opportunity that it has allowed me to think on a different level and start accomplishing other things I have been wanting to do, in small stages, but hey, we all have to work to something! Small changes make big differences! Oh, and I don't know how I am not on this list yet... so @chbartist, please add me to the list so I can see when you post all your stuff! Love your work, keep it up.

Ones mind can be the worst enemy. This is the situation I sit in for the last couple of years (it's been so many I stopped counting already) but one of the very big factors is how to mentally accept that the overdue huge capital debts against my name will not be able to be paid back until the best years of my life is over. If you have any tips and advice on how to ride the wave in a scenario like mine it is so appreciated!

Both my husband and i did very well to the point we had everything in excess and budgeting was not a worry.. suddenly thanks to a drought and political nonsense our business literally went from hero to zero in a matter of a few months, thus losing all our vehicles, house etc.. now we going on around 4-5yrs later and we still have all those huge debts haunting us daily. Truth is that we work our rear ends off daily and we make enough to live and provide for our girls but not more than that..

We have both been taken over by the immense feeling of uselessness and incompetence to achieve anything of real value business wise so that we can finally take the leap and move to the coastline (it's been our dream since we met 14yrs ago) we finally realised that the things you think matter in life truly do not if you don't get to experience it along with your kids and loved ones..

Tomorrow is not promised to any of us!

La vida es una película que no se puede volver a reproducir... Pensemos la triste situación de la mayoría... Muchos pensamos que solo nacimos para morir y en ese lapso solo tener una familia, un carro,una casa y hacer lo que debemos y no lo que amamos qué perdida! La vida es una pelicula en donde nosotros somos los protagonistas... Hay que ponermos a pensar si morirmos mañana qué hicimos el día de hoy? Por ello tenemos que hacer lo que nos gusta lo que nos apasiona te aseguro que si tu realizas tus sueños no estarás trabajando para los sueños de otro
Life is a film that can not be reproduced ... Let us think about the sad situation of the majority ... Many of us think that we were only born to die and in that time we only have a family, a car, a house and do what we we must and not what we love what lost! Life is a movie where we are the protagonists ... We have to think about if we die tomorrow what we did today? For that reason we have to do what we like what we are passionate about, I assure you that if you make your dreams you will not be working for the dreams of another

The things that really motivate us are those that we do not usually postpone, while the things that are not so important, it is easier to make excuses not to do them.

We are often our own worst enemy. I find myself self sabotaging when I start succeeding at times , since this is a path less traveled..

The goals are achieved with effort and dedication. Each one of us must pursue his dreams, no matter what people say, the basis of success is to believe in what you are capable of doing. Really inspiring @chbartist.

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I agree with you, All have Dreams but we don't take them seriously because of lazyness, Fear or how other people think about me, some other Surrounding problems.

If we get little bit encouragement from our friends, I think we must Reach our Dreams as soon as possible.

For acciving our Goals first we need Self confidence. If you have that then any Hard Work may convert to Easy things.

I really appreciate your Hard work, Your Articles inspired me a lot.

Thank you very much for Sharing with us.

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Why Do Some People Never Start Doing the Things They Want?

Its because of human natural inclination and disposition.
Every human being is unique.
Every person is different in some ways.

Some people realize things in later time, a slow learner so to speak.
There are those that are gifted with talents.
Some develop their skills and succeeded.

We all have our own comfort zones, but it may be fair to say that there are any number of reasons. Anxiety, fear of failure, fear of not getting the job we want or that we aren't as good as we'd like to be.

For me personally it was a matter of just pushing myself to do it. Once I got in I just try to stay consistent.

Fuerza de voluntad para empezar un proyecto; y si lo inicias, necesitas más fuerza de voluntad para terminarla.

i have had cleaning the basement on my list of things to do for so long now but I never do it for some reason.

It‘s often the fear of failure but not even trying is a failure itself.

There is only so many chances in life, if you don’t take them you might have missed them forever.

I know personally how much anxiety the fear of failure can cause, it certainly is not an easy one to overcome.
But I try to become a better self everyday, step by step.

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Para reflexionar muy bien eh. Me suscribo.

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you probably guessed that most of us thought about fear. fear of failing, fear of success, fear of change...

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Many reasons for not doing things you want

Social responsibility

Due to some social responsibilities people can't do what they want as their most life passes to fulfill their responsibilities towards parents, kids, culture, society and friends as well.

Inferior Complex

Inferior complex is also a prime reason.

Priorities

Setting up priorities to do things and leaving a work you want to do behind any other work will take you to not to do that.

Etc

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Mostly time maximum people not perfect performance beacous biggest reason a inner fear affected achieve success and goal.

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It is easy to get caught up on our own fears... and it is good to have that friend or partner that encourages us to chase after our dreams... Setting small reachable goals often help us make baby steps to our harder, more long term goals.... just step out and take a chance!
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Hi @chbartist, I am very happy to be on the list of contributors in your community. I am not sure what that means but it sounds interesting.

🎻 My recent pursuit of learning the fiddle is an example of this phenomena in my life. For years I wanted to learn the fiddle but just was not prepared to put in the hard yards to learn. Well all that changed One Day about 17 weeks ago when I woke up and decided that I wanted to achieve this dream so much that I was finally ready to commit myself to the arduous task of putting I the daily practice and signing up for lessons. I am still some way off from playing well but I love it and will get there, I know because I have made that commitment to practice several hours every day🙏

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@chbartist truely said its just a matter of priroty to reach somewhere one has to leave the comfort zone and make the things done intead of just wishing... Inspite of article its really a good motivation too!!! It pumps the person from inside and make him feel to do something.... Really good work man!!! Keep it up!!!

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Although there are many such things which I have started but unwilling to do so....but yes I agree, prioritising is need of the hour.
Keep inspiring!

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I think they are staying in their comfort zone for way too long and doubt to leave it.

I learned early in my career that achieving success meant going beyond the “comfort zone” we like to remain in. Without pushing yourself to do more, you will remain stagnant without getting to your goals! Strive towards your goals, no matter what needs to be done.

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Hello, @chbartist greetings to you.... It has been a long time! By the way thanks for this great post.... We sometimes delays our opportunities since we do not quickly find what is best for our lives.

A lot of people a lazy they don't know where they want to go... the love sleeping and hopeless all the time

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Loved your post :) thank you for your philosophy, i aspire to someday have a healthy following of like minded individuals on my Steem. I have let fear stop me in the past. I'm not anymore :) i look forward to your future posts. Take care :)

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Those who like a simple and routine life can't start anything new. I believe that if we need to do something then have to come out of comfort zone and then only we can think out of the box.

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@chbartist the mere idea of wanting to be something is not enough. It requires perseverance, dedication and passion to achieve dreams.
It is necessary to make the most of the time, things have to be done at the right time if you want to achieve success.

Sometimes gaining the willpower to do something can be harder than doing the actual thing! funny how that works

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La vida es una película que no se puede volver a reproducir... Pensemos la triste situación de la mayoría... Muchos pensamos que solo nacimos para morir y en ese lapso solo tener una familia, un carro,una casa y hacer lo que debemos y no lo que amamos qué perdida! La vida es una pelicula en donde nosotros somos los protagonistas... Hay que ponermos a pensar si morirmos mañana qué hicimos el día de hoy? Por ello tenemos que hacer lo que nos gusta lo que nos apasiona te aseguro que si tu realizas tus sueños no estarás trabajando para los sueños de otro
Life is a film that can not be reproduced ... Let us think about the sad situation of the majority ... Many of us think that we were only born to die and in that time we only have a family, a car, a house and do what we we must and not what we love what lost! Life is a movie where we are the protagonists ... We have to think about if we die tomorrow what we did today? For that reason we have to do what we like what we are passionate about, I assure you that if you make your dreams you will not be working for the dreams of another

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Good Article! Really Encouraging!!!