The Thing About Being Accidentally Mean to Other People…

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Hi, Steemians!

Through the many years of life, there have been few lessons that I have cherished as much as I have understood the importance of being nice to the people I interact with, both personally and professionally.

There is something ultimately satisfying about being friendly to other people, especially those we see on a regular basis. Friendliness extends your bond and you begin to sympathize with them.

That sympathy carries itself in your relationship, and eventually you realize that you have got yourself a friendship that is more valuable than anything you could have possibly imagined.

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But in this blog post, I want to bring up another social issue that we face today, and it is something that we rarely talk about.

A lot of times we don’t want to be mean to other people or hurt their feelings, but we end up doing those anyway. The reason behind that is sometimes, and unbeknownst to us, we become accidentally mean.

Many of us do not care how our words or actions can influence other people. Some remark of yours that comes out of your mouth in passing can become a nightmare for someone close to you and haunt them for months on end.

People often fixate on things that may not be important, but that does not mean you should not be wary of what you say and how you act.

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After a lot of time has passed, the person you have hurt comes to you and tells you that you hurt them, but however hard you think or try to justify your words or actions, it becomes apparent that you were merely and accidentally mean.

You obviously did not mean to hurt the other person, but you have done it nonetheless and should take responsibility for your deed.

Being accidentally mean has two important downsides, both in your personal life and in your professional life, and it all goes down to monitoring your own words and actions.

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First and foremost, you can go a long way without knowing that you have hurt the people you love. People who are close to you.

Secondly, it is a dangerous jeopardy in your professional life, since it could compromise your relationships and put everything at risk.

There is a simple way to avoid all the confusion, and that is to be watchful of what you say and do. Monitoring your own thoughts, words, and actions is not as hard as you think.

Accidental nastiness happens when we are paying no attention as to what we are saying or doing, and how our words and actions could affect the people we come in contact with.

What I am suggesting might be an insignificant change in attitude and behavior, but the benefit will baffle and surprise you!




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I find this particularly true when it comes to family. At least amongst my family members, that often say things they might find humorous about another family member that is actually quite hurtful. The victim usually does not point out their hurt but will later mention it to someone else. We need to learn to be more open and honest about our feelings if any improvement is to occur.🙏

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Excellent motivation @chbartist and we are always surrounded by many people in our lives, these are relatives, colleagues or just friends and acquaintances, so it is very important to build trustful and friendly relations with everyone as a guarantee of support in a difficult moment and participation in the common cause!

should not be careful while treating or talking to others, as people have different perspective of life,

Thanks for this wonderful lovely article. It certainly is an eye opener to those who (including me) don’t really mean to hurt anyone, but somehow accidentally did or just being oblivious at the moment.

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Fantastic post friend congraulaions

It's funny, I was at the deli today and I was like extra nice just because I got the miserable deli lady instead of the friendly one who wants to talk to everyone and never shut up, I was nice because I was so relieved not to have to deal with the overly friendly lady. Of course that was after I encountered this robot at the grocery store.

Our way of interpreting the world can have a significant impact on others. That is why it is important to remember that every action has a reaction and each person thinks differently, the world is diverse and we must be precise when expressing ourselves. Nice @chbartist.

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I guess in some ways we could not avoid of being mean to others especially if we're honest and truthful to ourselves.
Being mean to others often times hurt because truth hurts in many ways.
But the way we say it matters.
We can be honest and truthful to others constructively without offending them.

Good post chbartist. This is a very thoughtful article. Being more conscientious and mindful of how we deal with other people can have a huge effect on our relationships and future opportunities. The victim usually does not point out their hurt but will later mention it to someone else. We need to learn to be more open and honest about our feelings if any improvement is to occur.I understand 95.59% in this post, and if you post more beautifully, we will understand better and we can improve. Thank you for this kind of posting. We want you to be able to improve in one day.

I totally agree, we must be responsible for the things we say and for our actions, we must be careful of how we approach others, since not all people have the same sensitivity, we already know our circle of friendship and family, and we know what the personality of each one is like.
Also happens here in steemit, we must be careful with what we express, however here in steemit, the difencia is the language, often the translation changes the meaning of what we want to express and that can sometimes bring misunderstandings.

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Yeah. It happens sometimes. We loose our cool or may be we don't care that much for the person and act nasty that's totally not fair. We should always be considerate for others. Thanks for writing nice post @chbartist

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It is really surprising how we behave sometimes, I don't know why I should not be careful while treating or talking to others, as people have different perspective of life, anything you do or says it means something to whom you are referring, and may interpret it positively or negatively. So, we better says good or shut off our mouth!... Great post! Wishes you all the best... Including all my steemians friends!

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Very true, and on the other side of this perspective is when it happens to you it might seem that the person you are interacting with doesn't have interest what you're saying, which can end up in miscommunication.

I loved this article, rarely do I think about this kind of things. But you are right, it is something that, sadly, we always do without realising. I like your point of view, it's very interesting!

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Our world is meaningful if we can make peace with one another. There is a saying that, if you want to have peace, make people around you to be in peace, then you will have have. Thank you very much @chbartist for this wonderful views.

The author always writes on interesting topics. Nice to read, well done

This is a very thoughtful article. Being more conscientious and mindful of how we deal with other people can have a huge effect on our relationships and future opportunities.

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Often there appears to be so many mean people in the world around us, because the behavior of mean people tends to be more noticeable. One reason for this is probably the way our brains are wired for survival. According to Rick Hanson, author of Buddha's Brain, we need to be especially observant of the negative things in our environment because those are the things that are most likely to harm us. As a result, those most likely to survive and pass their genes to the next generation were those who were particularly sensitive to danger in the environment.

Unfortunately, another aspect of meanness that makes it more visible is that it is often rewarded. Sometimes the reward can be tangible such as a ruthless businessman being rewarded by making more money. However, it can also be rewarded with attention or escalation of conflict. It varies with each person what sort of reward is meaningful, although for meanness to continue there must be some sort of reward to the perpetrator. We will examine this further as we look at the different reasons for meanness.

I like this idea of "monitoring your own thoughts, words, and actions "

I have learned that despite the billions of people in the world, it remains small and with technology even more so. This has led me to treat any engagement and interaction with respect and grace as you never know who is watching or on the receiving side; it could be your future boss or doctor that will save your life.

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My mother says that when our neighbor is mean, which is generally the case, it is really because she is just unhappy, and who could blame her with a husband like that. She says this is really the only reason people are ever mean they have something hurting inside of them, a claw of unhappiness scratching at their hearts.

Because they are mean is no reason why I should be. I hate such things.

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@chbartist, Every action hold it's end effect may be positive or negative may be pleasant or bitter, sometimes it can be the effect of perception but sometimes people become mean in that moment but people who stand in the position of receiving end, may be it will affect them long term and it's a concern. So, we have to be careful with our words and actions because one mean step can break our Relations.

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You are an amazing writer. You inspire me more especially about being selfless and seeing others needs more important than mine

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very good & great article be blessed @chbartist

I tell to those people who hurt me

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Very nice

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