Well, can you go to the bar, night club, hang out, and go home with a girl? (and not speaking of desperate women)

Basically, 20% of the men are getting 80% of the sex.

If you are trying to please a woman to stay with you: you are beta.
If you have several women you can call on at any time: you are alpha.

There are two very different worlds.
One group that hopes they will get laid
and another that knows they will get laid whenever they want to.

You listen to people from both groups, and you get two very different views of women.

And yes, you can up your game to appear alpha. Takes practice and working out, and starting from a point that is not dog ugly.