60-SECOND PLAN TO RECONNECT WITH YOUR SPOUSE Part 6
COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY
Did you know that poor communication is the #1 reason couples split up?
*70% of men cite nagging and complaining as the top communication problem in their marriage.
*83% of women's top complaint was that their spouse doesn't validate their opinions of feelings enough.
Whatever the challenges are in your marriage...
You know how vital good communication is...
How difficult it is...
When you and your spouse can't seem to understand...
Respect...
Or appreciate each other.
There are four types of communication problems that lead to divorce:
- CRITICISM
- DEFENSIVENESS
- CONTEMPT
- WITHDRAW (refusing to communicate at all)
Are you struggling with any of these?
Most people talk about needing better communication,
The reality is, that most people don't know what goes into that process.
It's simply not something we learn.
When there are problems in a relationship the entire communication game changes on top of that.
You need to know how to communicate in order to get your key messages across.
ACTION STEP:
- Find out what your spouse is looking for.
- Do nothing but attempt to understand them from their own point of view.
- DO NOT shift the conversation to your concerns or what YOU think is wrong.
Did you do it?
How different did it feel?
What was the effect on your spouse and the entire conversation?
If you struggled with this, or have a spouse not open to communicating...
Don't despair.
Like we said, communication is skill to be learned.
It's not going to happen overnight and we'll guide you on exactly what to say and how to say it to encourage your spouse to open up in the near future...
Now that you're getting how to communicate effectively, it's time to go deeper and WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM!!