What is the best way of avoiding arguments in marriage?

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Robert Quillen once said that Discussions are an exchange of knowledge; arguments an exchange of ignorance. Arguments are in evitable in marriage. Marriage is between two different people with different behavioral pattern, attitude, feelings, opinions and dispositions - it is almost not possible for the duo not to have anything to argue about.

There are a lot of things to argue about in marriage, most especially if the partners are seeking for the progress of their marital life. Some of the issues that evolve in marriages which may make arguments inevitable include the financial prowess of the couple. For instance, if the husband is not financially bouyant there would always be cause for arguments in the marriage when there's need for him to pay for some necessities in the family.

One other important cause of arguments in relationship is intimacy and closeness. It's arguably proven that intimacy between couple may reduce after they have spent a lot of time with each other. It may also be as a result of stress from work which leads to little or no intimacy between the couple. This would definitely cause arguments in marriage if it is not well managed.

There are so many other reasons why couples argue such as lack of communication, feeling of neglect, family and friends, and so on. But the truth still remains that arguments could be a blessing in disguise, you know?

Arguments help you get to understand your partner more when you hear him/her pour out what has been bothering them for a while. It also makes one free and light because if your don't spill all your worries out, it may reflect in your behavior towards your partner. In short, you will act it out if it isn't spilled out.

So, how should arguments be avoided? TALK IT OUT. Sit down and talk about it. Issues that bring about arguments can not be totally avoided in marriage but it can be ameliorated when it is cordially talked about.

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