There are times you hold knowledge with wisdom and this is applicable to some issues in marriage too. You hold back on addressing some issues and deal with it in maturity. You don’t need to always shove your desire to be right in the face of your partner. Some fights are not worth it. Life in itself has pressure, so don’t expect peak performances from your spouse always. Be realistic and show maturity from time to time. She won’t always make you happy, just as he won’t always show considerations sometimes. She can’t be at her best always, just as he won’t always be at his best and when days like that pop up, showing a little bit of understanding and maturity will go a long way, rather than draining yourselves by nagging and bickering over something that requires more sense and maturity. Understand that days like that will come, and watch the pattern to understand and know that since it doesn’t happen constantly, you should let this one slide.
There will be emotional inconsistency or inconstancy, and all you can do for your partner in that given moment is to try and understand, be there for your partner; if you can’t, don’t seek to make it worse, just show understanding – that’s maturity. When you are mature, you seek to understand rather than being led by your own feelings alone, thinking the other person doesn’t understand how you feel. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes; try to see things from his or her perspectives too. Don’t be too rigid.
Don’t waste your energy trying to control your spouse, because that will take a lot of effort, and in fact, too much effort for that matter. It is better for couples to submit to themselves in love, rather than to seek to control each other. Don’t create a state of siege in your marriage. Don’t create room for hanging accusations and unspoken allegations. Maturity is everything in marriage. Maturity perseveres, it understands, and always seeks to understand.
Maturity seeks wisdom. Maturity doesn’t speak anyhow; caution. Maturity does not seek retaliation. Maturity does not try and prove a point. You must be mature in marriage and that is a prerequisite for the sustainability of it.
…to be continued…
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