How to Improve Your Self Esteem - 5 Steps to Help You Develop Better Self Confidence and Improve Your Self Esteem Today

Self Esteem is an essential quality in life. It is our foundation and the cornerstone on which we build. It is the belief that we are worthy of success, love, and success and that we deserve all that we have and more. Self Esteem is the foundation of our faith, confidence, integrity, assertiveness, motivation, perseverance and tolerance. It is what makes us strong and in control of ourselves and the world around us.


The lack of self-esteem can be a crippling burden to some people. Low self-esteem can affect not only the way others see us but also themselves. As a person who has low self-esteem many times I find myself being rejected for jobs, romantic interest, etc. Often because of my own insecurities I fail to understand that rejection is not meant to be taken personally.

We all fail and we all make mistakes. No one is perfect and we all have flaws. When we make mistakes our self-esteem suffers and it becomes something we are trying to avoid. What we need to do is learn from our mistakes, take the blame for them, learn from them and move on. Our failure to learn from our own failures and take ownership over them teaches us to not do the same mistake again.

The second step to building our self-esteem is to be proud of who we are. We need to believe in ourselves enough to be self-confident enough to talk to the strangers we meet on the street. We need to believe that we look the way we look and that we are worthy of every compliment, every smile, every constructive criticism, every thought that enters our mind. Only when we begin to think like that, only then will our self esteem improve.

The third step in the process of building self esteem is to value the opinions of others, particularly those that are spoken to us by those close to us. We need to listen to others' ideas and opinions, and weigh them before we comment. We also need to learn to be critical when we find that someone else is making a negative comment about something that we are doing or saying. Criticism is a powerful form of communication and you need to hear it from time to time.

The fourth and final step to improving your self-esteem is to do things that improve your confidence every day. You don't need to try to be perfect but you do need to strive for excellence. We can easily slip into our comfort zone and stop making attempts to improve our self esteem. Doing so can work against you rather than for you.

Life is too short to dwell on the negatives. Rather, we should invest our time and effort into making the most of the good things that happen to us. By working towards improving our self-esteem every day, we give ourselves a gift each and every time we feel a little less confident about the way our life is progressing. We are given the ability to focus on what we can control rather than what we cannot.


No matter how big or small the task, if we put our mind, heart and spirit into it, we will achieve the goal and then some. It may not seem like much at first but if we continue to do this, we will eventually see an improvement in our self esteem and confidence. The benefits of self-esteem are enormous and they can change your life for ever.