And how did he end up with 3 positive votes for that reply? Freaky!

I don't have a problem with knowing how to stand... but then after 10 minutes I realize that the way I'm standing is the way every book says "looks defensive and uncommunicative" and then I feel like I have to stand in the communicative, open, and extremely uncomfortable position to be polite and not to end up standing alone. Arrrgh!