Can't escape

Once when I went to a safari park, I heard the staff member talk about the habits of the Siberian tigers. The male Siberian tigers are very domineering. They use urine to continuously delineate and expand their range of activities. Within this range, other foreign male tigers are not allowed. Enter, and the female tiger has to go through "investigation" to determine whether it will be accepted

The larger the circle, the greater the power of the tiger. Tigers in small circles are often driven out and annexed by tigers in larger circles. As for the larger circle, they can only look down on it.

This is especially true for the circle of people. When God created gender, there was a circle of men and a circle of women. Because of the difference in skin color, there was the circle of white and black and the yellow race. Because of the difference in geography and habits, there was a circle of men and women. Circles of nations and nations. Of course, there are too many of these, and they are all derived from the circle of nature and the environment. There is another invisible circle—the circle of thought.

For example, the unified thinking once advocated by the Chinese people is not mentioned now, because normal people know that people's thinking cannot be unified, but in fact, I think that people's thinking is too unified, because thinking also has Inertia, people always like to think about problems in the old way. Of course, this is due to people's inertia.

Moreover, people have a tendency to follow the trend, fearing loneliness, falling behind, and even more afraid of getting ahead. Our sages have long taught us to learn the golden mean and maintain the golden mean.

Although the original intention is to look at things from a higher perspective, it is often an excuse when applied to reality. The big circle of utilitarianism is a rubber rope with good elasticity, which restrains people's thoughts just right, so that they can turn around but not far away.

In the past, people regarded homosexuality as a sexual perversion, that is, since God created two sexes to allow people to love each other, and homosexuality does not conform to this normal way of life, but when the homosexual circle is getting bigger and bigger, there are already many The country recognizes this way of falling in love and allows same-sex marriage. Even in our country, it is no longer regarded as a kind of abnormal disease in medicine, and it is called "different sexual orientation".

This once again shows that to gain recognition, you have to continuously expand the circle of activities. But as far as humanism is concerned, as a person in a big circle, have you ever thought about using your mind and heart to experience the pain of people in a small circle? When a young life has disappeared, are you willing to use your true feelings to appreciate the sorrow of your loved ones or feel the impermanence of life? Is a spender willing to imagine that there are so many people on this planet who can’t feed themselves? Is a person who sees himself as normal willing to listen to the voice of the "alien"?

My mentor is a well-known psychologist. He was very painful when he was treating a "masochistic". The man had been married eight times, but he could not find a husband who met his ideals. He was suffering because She failed to cure her, and she is still migrating constantly to escape people's injustice to her. In fact, apart from being a small circle of people, she is a kind-hearted, hardworking and caring person just like ordinary people.

I remember that at an academic conference, I was moved by a statement from a leader: Although the mental patient is ill, he is by no means retarded. It's just that you can't see what he sees. You just have different thoughts.

Although this is a bit of a layman or sensationalism, it is still a flash of humanism. Why not think about it this way? If he feels happy and doesn't hurt others, then what is worthy of blame for us so-called normal people, he is just a small circle of life.

In fact, there are many great people in the world who have more or less abnormal mental states, such as Van Gogh, Lincoln, Tustoyevsky, Jack London..., these people are often very small in reality. It is because they put their energy in the circle of ideals and science, so in a sense, their circle is actually very large.

Chen Jingrun is an incompetent boy in reality, but he has solved the mystery that the world can't solve. Zhuang Zhou's Mengdie is well known to the world, it is ethereal and dialectical and shines on the glory of idealism.

There are still many things in this world that we have not yet understood. Even if our body is in a certain circle, our thoughts and hearts should not cease to be rich and gentle because of a certain circle of reality, because once our thoughts are If something is delineated, it is really hard to escape the circle.