Two strangers!

When it comes to love, in love, time appears as a corrosive factor. It erodes the beautiful feelings of the initial state and we suddenly find that it is no longer what it was ... the relationship seems to undergo changes ... And the inevitable questions arise: Why? How?
Every day, different truths begin to emerge. The authentic personality of each of us is reaffirmed. She was always there, presence; only manifesting himself in a state of bliss generated by the strong feeling of finding the original unit.
Gradually, however, we become ourselves and see the other as it is. We observe then that it is not exactly as we thought it or it is quite different. Have we ever seen that before? Not! We were just in love. Sometimes it is equivalent to a kind of blindness or dream that we find more or less suddenly.

This awakening can, over time, trigger a cascade of disillusionments, deceptions, and confrontations or confrontations, often with a negative impact on the relationship. Is the relationship condemned in this new context? Far from being like this!
It is vital for the two to understand what is happening to them in order to make the decision to move to another level of the relationship. In other words, to overcome the love of true love.
Often many couples fall apart once this point has been reached. Is it a barrier, a point so difficult to pass? What can this deadlock generate?
Do you remember idealization? We idealize our partner's being, ourselves and love as such.
"You are the most beautiful…"
"Love is wonderful ..."
"We fit ourselves ..."
"It's all I've ever wanted!"
"We are perfect for each other!"
To achieve this, each one of us is preoccupied with a more or less conscious game, a game of projection and beauty. It's a game that, if you do not realize it as impact and size, you have every chance to see the other as you want or how you wanted it to be and not as it really is.
Therefore, somewhere, once, we can choose to see just what we like. Here's one of the pitfalls you can fall in, whether you want it or not! According to this hypothesis, what we love can be a projection of our own fantasies, needs and not the true person of the partner.
What happens to your own person? What are we willing to please each other? Often, to please, we will create an image as close as possible to the one that likes the partner. And then there is a tendency to "shape" our personality according to his desires and pleasures, accentuating the desirable features, blurring them or masking those that seem to displace or cause problems.

I have heard of expectations: my expectations for him, his expectations in relation to me. And these can distort reporting in a relationship. This is another extremely dangerous trap in which it can fall as easily. How? Simple! We borrow our own expectations and act in accordance with them as if it belonged to the latter. And we realize we are no longer understood, no matter what we do!
How many masks! How much fake can attract this game! It is a game of appearances in which we only have to lose if we fail to get rid of it as quickly as possible or even to avoid it as much as possible. It's a stage play directed at a stage where, at the fall of the curtain, we might be surprised by the actors. Two strangers!