Relationships are hard.
Relationships are quite difficult.
On Thursday my girlfriend and I broke up. We had been casually dating for 5 months and a couple for 2 of the 5 months.
The reason being is that basically we lacked communication. Communication is key in any relationships. But it is particularly important in a romantic relationships. It developed because of various issues she was having, mainly due to personal drama from past relationships.
I was very sad about us breaking up. I went through all of my old photos of us together on my phone and deleted them all. As well as call my family and tell them what I did. Meanwhile, she decided to eat ice cream and cry over us breaking up.
However, I tried to end things in the most mature way as possible. I still liked her and cared about her, so being overtly mean and nasty to her just wasn't an option. But, I did feel that refusal to communicate to me about her feelings would jeopardize our future relationship. As, for me, it's important that I'm able to talk to my partner and build a trustful relationship with someone.
I left her, but I told her that if she was willing to make even a small effort to communicate her feelings to me that I was more than willing to work with her and grow.
A few days past and I start to think that she won't be willing to make the effort. Which is fine, after all, she is her own person.
But, much to my surprise, she texted me. She told me that her dad called her.... For her that is a big deal, as she has never spoken to her father.... ever.
So I took the opportunity - guessing that if she texted me to tell me about that, she must still kind of value my opinion - to ask her for a compromise. She slept on it over night and much to my surprise, she decided to accept my compromise. And we decided to get back together based upon that compromise.
She's a wonderful girl and I'm very happy to be back together with her.
But I have learned a few things:
One - communication is very important and we all could be better at it. I feel as though I ended things prematurely as the compromise I proposed could have been developed while we were still dating.
Two - compromise is a virtue. Compromise takes two, obviously. But it can be such a wonderful things when it works out. No relationship, friendship, or even country will last without compromise occurring.
Three - relationships take time and effort. If you aren't willing to put in the effort to make the woman you are with feel special then your relationship will reflect that. It won't be as happy, as fulfilling as it might otherwise be.
Four - always be grateful for what you have. This is easier said than done. But it's easy to take for granted the people in our lives. Your family, friends, and pets are all wonderful in their own way. Remember, if they have remained in your life, there's a reason why both of you have made an effort to do so. Try to thank them for that sometimes.
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