Jealousy is born of what we imagine but not what we see.

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hi friends today I will talk about jealousy, few people define themselves as jealous, much less than what they really are. The lack of this recognition stems from the social undesirability that this attribute receives as part of our character. Thus, in the collective unconscious it seems to gravitate a clear idea: jealousy does not bring anything good for anyone, neither for the person who has them or for the person to whom they are lavished.

On the other hand, jealousy is inevitably linked to the concept of property. Not in vain, the fear of losing something only appears when there is a possession or the hope of such possession. However, if we stayed here-however logical it sounds-we would have a very reduced view of this feeling and as such of its motivating power.

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The jealous people



While jealousy is not only treasured by mediocre people, it does happen that most people who cultivate it think they are. This perception leads them to ask themselves questions with which they are stabbed again and again, "Why is he with me if I do not deserve someone so good?", "How long will it take to pass that hallucination that he calls love?"

Questions that hide a very bitter feeling of insignificance for those who do it, because they contain a resistance to surrender, to really love. This resistance is consistent with the doubts: "Why am I going to give myself up in a relationship that will end up breaking?"

With this we do not want to justify the jealous,

but to propose that it is not an isolated aspect of his character but is connected with the other pieces of the puzzle that make up his personality. Thus, analyzing jealousy or a jealous person in isolation is to analyze the wound by omitting the causes that produced it or that keep it open.

On the other hand, we also want to highlight something if we want to help you. A jealous person really has a hard time. He really is afraid, it is not a feigned fear, no matter how much the rest of the world thinks that he has no foundation. Even rationally the jealous person can have moments of lucidity and understand that their feelings and behaviors are absurd. Something that will not make you feel better and even increase how insignificant you feel.



Jealousy is born from what we imagine



Sometimes it gives the feeling that we like to have a bad time. We trust our partner, but if we

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see his phone lost at home and he has left, the temptation to approach and look may appear. It is not a suspicion, but a check like we do when we turn around when leaving home in search of a light that has been turned on.

Then we see in a message "a hug", a "have a good time". The words of someone we did not know. A "kiss" (But ... a kiss, "how, when, where?"). Affectionate thanks and the questions and disquiet begin. We have placed ourselves at a difficult crossroads. On the one hand we know that we can not confess that we have entered your phone.


Well yes, people who believe they have the right to do so and feel that right recognized by the other. It is very common, for example, that after an infidelity the unfaithful person allows these behaviors of the other. Understand that it is a way to give security to the other that will not happen again and grants that espionage as a price to continue with the relationship. That is to say, between the two they place a bomb that will end up exploding.

Returning to our spy, who thinks that before "dead to confess", and that therefore will have to start swallowing doubts. Doubts that have nothing to do with the kiss or with the hug, with what he has seen, but with what he imagines there may be behind. From now on he will not go to the phone to check, but to confirm the worst fears. He did not say that we seem to like to suffer ...



The motives of a jealous person



By this we mean that a jealous person will always find reasons to be, because we all have threads in our life from which a careful mind can invent a story full of underground lovers. Stories that in most of the times the person who creates them will not share and who will swallow like the one who swallows poison. In this tragic way, and also represented in some theatrical comedies, it is easy to end prisoner of their own suspicions.

On the other hand, the line that separates founded and unfounded jealousy is peleaguda. Nobody wants to know the last one that their partner has a "dear" or a "dear" because a whole project of life can be at stake. Also, on paper it can be very easy to say that if the relationship has to end, it will end the same, whether or not there is a third person. But, as we said at the beginning, this is over-intellectualizing a feeling that is more complex and has a more powerful force.



Conclusion



So, if someone expected an easy conclusion to this article, I'm afraid it will lead to disappointment. The jealousy and behavior of those who are born and who maintain them are a personal decision; Yes, it is good that everyone is aware of where he introduces his thoughts and emotions when he undertakes certain behaviors. In either case, think that jealousy has more to do with what we imagine than with the information that we actually have.



Thank you friend, this is all for today I hope to see you in my next publication.




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