I am guilty of this sometimes. Where I just mean well but my words and speech come across as a lecture.

I've learned you cannot tell someone what to do. It's their life. Even if you see them heading towards destruction, it's their choice, their life.

I'll give advice in a loving way yes, but only if I've gone through that same situation in my life. You cannot advise someone how to walk through the fire if you haven't walked through it successfully yourself.

So I'll give you advise in a loving way, and whether you want to take that advise or not is your choice. After that I wash my hands. I've done my part so to speak.

It's up to whomever to decide what they do with valuable, practical, useful advice.
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