"Painful as it may be, a significant emotional event can be the catalyst for choosing a direction that serves us more effectively. Look for the learning."- Louisa May Alcott.
Emotional scaring can be hard on many and in it is the capacity to make us never want to go outside our comfort zones. But, there is something we can do with that pain, make it drive us further down the path of recovery.
There will be pain and there will be seas of tears that will never end. Having pain at one time in your life should not stop you from living because, there is a door waiting to be opened if you can just hang on a bit.
Use the pains as a stepping stone to to next journey rather than as a spiral downwards.
You are your own motivator and if you cannot help yourself heal, no one can do it for you.