"No more doormat Kat!" Good for you Kat! Life is too short to let anyone put you down. If you don't stand up for yourself people will just walk all over you. It's human nature.

I'm often a soundboard for my friends and family. Two reasons: 1. I'm a good listener and will let someone vent out their problems. Sometimes you just need to get it out of your system. 2. I can keep a secret. I don't tell anybody anything they don't need to know. My gang knows this well so I usually end up hearing about everything going on.

But at the same time, my gang also knows they can't come to me looking for pity. I'll let them air anything out, but if they want my opinion it will be a honest one. I'm not the guy that will simply tell you what you want to hear. That doesn't help anybody. So sometimes I become the "bad guy". I can live with it. I'll tell them you can be mad at me all you want, but I'm moving past this. Nobody has abandoned me yet, so I guess I'm not all "bad".