AH! My apologies! I do most of my posting on my phone and despite me re-reading there are sometimes errors that slip through. That seems to be one of them.

That was meant to say "likely at the cost of social penalty".

It's little wonder that you feel like the rug was pulled out from you. That tends to happen when fundamental truisms are questioned. It takes personal fortitude to make it through such times. It's similar to processing a divorce or separation when such a thing was never on the radar. It's a fundamental shift in what the mental outcome was pictured as so it hits like a freight train.

I've done some amateur studies in psychology and find the varied approaches and techniques that have come into being over the years interesting in themselves.

Looking forward to interacting with you more!