Avoid Comparison!
One thing I know that has put so many people under unnecessary pressure is "Comparison", it is a slow poison that kills slowly, in fact it victim begins to slowly die under its weight till it becomes visible and sometimes when it gets to this stage, it becomes very difficult to remedy because the damage has been done already.
Unfortunately today, many people are already threading this part especially young people who seem to live their lives based on what they see in their environment. Trust me, you can be caught up in this whole thing if you do not live your life with a different mindset.
Society sometimes contributes to this whole thing because somehow they have created standards that an average person wants to live by. That by a certain age, you should be doing certain things and when you seem to fall short, you already think you're doing bad or even worse.
They can go ahead and point to you people around you that they feel are doing great according to their standard. Telling you how he or she is now married, now has children, has built a house and has a car, a good job and so on. Listening and allowing all of these sink in only produce hate, envy and jealousy for the people you're being compared with when not well handled.
In addition to the above, such a person is then put under undue pressure to prove a point...that he is not a failure and when this is the case, desperation sets in, you know, that "do or die" mentality that drives them into all manner of things which in most case are illegal because illegal things, though deadly seems to bring the quick and big money needed to prove a point.
What then happens afterward? These people become different people entirely, they now live in lies, not fulfilment, they are now slaves to people and societal standards, doing everything in their capacity to appear as successful folks and not failure but one thing they forget is that the choice they made would come with consequences that would later change the course of their lives.
If only they decided to live life on their own terms, if only they understood that everybody's timeline is different, if only they knew that solid and long lasting things takes time to build, if only they knew these undiluted truths....they would have avoided looking at others around them and face their lives squarely.
Friends, If you must compare or compete, then it must be between who you were yesterday and who you are today. This helps you measure how far you've grown and how much value has been added to your life. I hope this blesses someone today. Enjoy the rest of your day.
Regards
@lhorgic❤️
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Wonderful post! Thank you so much for sharing your valuable thoughts and experiences with us. Keep up the good work and good luck