Marriage pressure

Marital pressure is a phenomenon when an individual feels the need to get married, due to external influences such as those from family, friends, or the society at large, without having any real readiness or willingness. Such pressure ranges from mild forms such as "when are you getting married?", comparisons with married peers, to more assertive forms such as parental pressure where marriage is not optional but an obligation or a measure of life-success. It can be well-meaning, and at times helpful, but too often this pressure will impose a heavy psychological burden on the recipient.

People feel pressured to marry for many different reasons. Even today, in the nation-marriage complex of many cultures, marriage remains a marker of adulthood, family honor and stability. Parents want, naturally, to see their offspring socially “established” before they kick the bucket, and society tends to have a “cutoff” age for marriage, more so for women. Masih further said, the pressure may also be caused by fear of negative social attitudes like the attitude that being single is a personal life-failure.

Still, it is a very dangerous choice to make under pressure.Although one would expect that the decision to marry would not be made without due consideration, this is not what happens in the real world. Marriage has to do with emotional readiness and commitment to building a life together. When you marry for reasons other than love, such as to satisfy someone else’s requirements, the relationship is going to be filled with fighting, misery and perhaps divorce. Psychologically, the effect of marital pressure can be stressful, and cause a person to experience lower self-esteem, anxiousness, and feelings of powerlessness. This could ruin someone's mental health and their quality of life in the long run.

For anyone under the pressure to marry, they need to realize that their life or their happiness is not the responsibility of anyone else. Everyone has their time to be ready and there’s no age limit or which age equals success in life. You need to be honest with the people who are putting the pressure on you, particularly your family, about your reasons and how you feel. Say that you want to get married because you love him and you feel ready, not because of pressure. You should also consider talking to friends, or a counselor for a dispassionate and comforting viewpoint.

At the end of the day, marriage is a personal decision, not a race. That kind of outside pressure can only lead to a phony happiness. It’s better to wait until you really are ready than to push into a choice you might regret for the rest of your life. Real happiness is not determined by marital status, but by the peace and significance in life we decide to gift ourselves with.

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