Better Mental Health: Let Go of People Who Are "Not Present" For You!
A major part of the personal growth process is that we invariably change as human beings, and with that also comes change in our wants, needs and desires.
Whereas I am not necessarily a fan of the term "woke," what definitely does hold true is that our old ways/habits — and the people in them — may not serve our needs any more.
Now, to talk of letting go of people often flies in the face of what we have been taught about friendships and relationships: They are supposed to last "forever."
Some Things to Consider:
It does not serve our highest and best self to keep holding the hands of people who do not want to change. No matter what wisdom you may offer them, they are not ready to hear you and you are only hurting yourself by trying to change a situation that's not going to change.
For those who are helpful by nature, we must also stop trying to earn the appreciation and gratitude of people who are not even particularly interested in you, or your presence. In all honesty... they are little more than bottomless "time sinks."
Be prepared to let go of those who do not reciprocate love. If you realize that you are trying to earn someone's love, know that they don't have any freely given love for you; their love is conditional, and contingent on some kind of "transaction" that usually benefits them but leaves you feeling exhausted and empty.
Convince yourself that you are worthy of spending your time with people who reciprocate; that there are millions of them in this world... and let go of "this is probably the best I can do" thinking.
If you have ever found yourself getting anxious, restless and emotionally tired in someone's company, ask yourself why?" Chances are there are people, places, activities and commitments that make you feel this way... so cut them loose, as soon as possible!
There is nothing wrong with being of a helpful nature and wanting to be "of service" to others, but keep in mind that you are not responsible for "saving" anyone from their actions, or even from themselves.
The hardest part can be simply the act of stopping to try to "win over" or impress people that don't even have a place in your life, as you are living it now. Just because you "always" spent time with a particular person whom you've now outgrown does not mean that you should continue spending time with them after you've reached a point of no longer being "on the same page."
Allow yourself to grow and blossom... but know that it is not your job to bring others "with" you, when they are not ready to go on that journey!
Thanks for reading and Bright Blessings to all!
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