The Most Toxic Idea Promoted by the Spiritual Community
Probably you've seen a trillion memes and read this all over the place. But just because it's a widely spread idea doesn't mean it's true or the best thing you could live by. And I'm telling you this because I've been living on this for far too long.
Today I've had a really rough day trying to pull myself together. The owner of the house left on a trip about a week ago and I've been alone since then (in company of a dog and two kittens, but I am referring to the absence of other humans). I've been alone before and for extended periods of time (months even without any human contact) and there were painful moments such as the ones I've experienced today.
The thing is, when I interrupted my hermitage a few years ago it was to reconnect with people, to embrace community again and to stop hiding from fears. But it has been incredibly hard to do so and today I had a wake-up call regarding this heavily engrained idea which had become a serious limitation to do so.
Perhaps I've taken this too literally. I can agree that all that exists is within but if we observe what we can perceive with our exterior senses, it becomes obvious that all people are different, that each one has something to offer. Their originality, creativity, ways of showing love and the interactions they provide... I can't say that I can give that to myself the same way they give it to me!
Even in some small things such as the way they smile or a particular look in their eyes. How could I have been so arrogant to think that all of it was just me and that there was no one else out there? Worse of all, I have become so attached to this idea that every time I was beginning to form a relationship that showed the slightest dependency I would immediately retreat into my shell and say "it's all in me, I don't need that person".
So, no! Everything is NOT within yourself. Community is outside. Collaboration is outside. Empathy is within but it exists when you place yourself outside. The only way you practice these things is by stepping the fuck outside yourself!
Today I wondered: "why am I here alone? Why am I not interesting to anyone? Why doesn't anyone else care about the Earth and is here helping me restore the forest and fight the drought? Are we just a few stupid idiots trying to save the planet when it's obvious that we are outnumbered beyond solution?"
And then I thought about the several times I've had to team up with others on this quest. Sure, they didn't have the same ideas on how to do it, but part of collaborating is learning from each other and coming to a consensus. Instead of being tolerant, I would say: "everything I seek in them is within me, I can do this myself in the way I believe". And there I would go, waging mental war on society because I couldn't meet people who were on the same page as me.
So I've come to the conclusion that this idea is a comfort zone for those who don't dare and go out there to expose themselves to others. Unfortunately, none of us is perfect and we will say things that irritate others as well as they will do the same towards us. We will clash and confront, but we will also help and take care. We are not less spiritual for facing these "flaws", which are actually part of the beauty we have to offer to others.
I no longer want to continue feeling that I can't depend on anyone and that no one should depend of me because I am "sinning" in some way that will ruin my "perfect spiritual journey" of finding absolutely everything within. I want to be able to stick around through the good and the bad, to see other solutions other than retreating constantly to my shell where I feel safe and protected under the excuse of meditation.
This makes me understand why many Zen monks find the need to live in society for they see meditation as an ongoing practice that should not depend on closing your eyes in a silent place, but rather it should happen all the time and every place you go.
I think for now I'll go now with the phrase: "everything you seek is everywhere".
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Hey Fenngen! wOw, very special post! It can be so healthy to step out of our sacred zone, even if just to see where the rest of the world is at and how we relate to it. These are difficult times for many, especially those that resist change.
There are more who care than you may realise..
My Zen'ness wants to say:
"Why was the Buddha able to laugh"
Much love!
Couple of technical points!
This post would only appear on SpiritWeb if you do one of the below. Unfortunately at least right now, if it's not tagged first with hive-183196 or posted from the SpiritWeb community page it wont show up!.
{edit, i have cross-posted it now so we have another way!}
ALso:
Just to let you know that the use of the ecoTrain tag has changed!
We are now curating and posting in the ecoTrain community page.
So from now on you can either:
https://steempeak.com/c/hive-123046/created
OR
hive-166850
Thanks a lot, i look forward to reading more of your posts brother!
Indeed, I should of mentioned I meant more in a local sense. It seems I have landed in one of the most ecologically forsaken regions of the country, but I'm already thinking about doing some workshops in schools and doing some community-based action for change!
Does that mean I can post in two community pages simultaneously?
Thanks for the heads up!! Blessings bro!
it doesnt, i now undertand it properly.. u can post to one community only.. best forget totally about hive tags and just post to the community using the post interface!
Oh, bummer. Guess crossposting is the way to go!
maybe! sometimes at least.. i think the oweners of communities can and will also cross post good content into their community.. ive already done one or two and even made a crossposting account for SpiritWeb.. make things easier and also nice for the author to get that extra support without having to post..
Hopefully this will help give value to older posts as well. Thanks for the cross-posts, I'll be on the lookout for good posts to send over to the SpiritWeb community as well.
By the way, I'm still thinking about why the Buddha could laugh hahaha, though if enlightenment is anything like a constant psychedelic trip there would be plenty of reasons to laugh!
yes, it is really good to bring old posts to life,, but i can see now also to share current posts, like news etc into a community feed..
and YEs, VERY happy to have you and anyone cross-posting nice stuff into the community.. thats the way really.. ONLY thing is our comments go to you and not the author.. lol.. its interesting!
Well that's sort of like the Facebook style and it works as you can create engagement for yourself while advertising another authors work.
why the Buddha can laugh..
maybe
life is a game
This is an exceptionally written post @fenngen! Some seriously RICH food for thought here!
Thank you @jaynie! How's your recovery coming along?
My pleasure @fenngen! I am doing very well, thank you!
Glad to hear that, big hug and stay well!
Thank you!!! xxx
Can’t it be both?
And if what you seek is inside yourself then isn’t what you hate also inside yourself?
Definitely, hence the finishing line:
YES!
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For One is All and All Is One... Welcome on the Free Your Mind Journey!
For One is All and
All Is One... Welcome on the
Free Your Mind Journey!
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Inconceivably simultaneously one...and different.
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Will work on that today!
Thank You BroSir... I'm with you!
I hear you @fenngen, we're all in this together. I also don't socialize as much as I used to, am more on steemit than live socializing. I have very few live friends that I care to even spend time with, living in a small town. I am happier alone, can go for lengths of time alone. Bit we are social animals apparently and when my own company gets boring I also feel restless and then even an arbitrary friend is pleasant as a change. Variety may be what we seek, or what the mind seeks. The self is apparently self-satisfied in relationship with the divine. But we're not at that level of solitary monk in a cave...yet.
And who is? I feel this image has been so romanticized in time and while I don't doubt it to be an intense learning experience, it might be a bit damaging to hold it in such a high place in our consciousness.
I have gone through times where I definitely felt this and later felt divinity itself pushing me out into the world, like saying: "go out there, you still have much to learn".
Thank you for commenting, it gladdens me to know you're in good enough terms with yourself to spend lengths of time alone and be happy that way. I suppose it's all about cycles and variations that move is into new learnings.
Yes apparently we can go through cycles and change our mood with time - sometimes self-satisfied with our own company and sometimes in need of community. There are those two distinct paths in the spiritual tradition of India - the solitary hermit or babaji, and the social activist, or traveling sadhu who goes from village to village, outwardly as a beggar but inwardly with the idea to inspire, teach or uplift those met along the way. Both are accepted but the activist is considered more valuable and actually more appropriate for us at this time in history.
Interesting, didn't know those were archetypical spiritual paths... I guess I don't fit in either as I like to vary between both worlds, and at times I manage to balance them but it's hard to sustain.
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I am glad you are part of my communities... xxx I love learning from you xx