The Joy of Giving (Psychology of Giving)

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It has been a known psychological fact that people tend to give more when they are motivated to do so. Yeah, I also agree with it but motivation can come in various forms. Many may be looking at the immediate (and material) rewards but beyond that, there is the reward that will be delivered by posterity. This reward does not come in the immediate but makes the greatest impact. If you only focus on the immediate rewards for doing good, then you have already lost the motivation you need to do good.

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The name John D. Rockefeller rings a bell right? Yeah, he's known for his massive wealth and perhaps the first United States billionaire in the recorded history, but do you also know that, at a point, he parted with majority of his wealth for humanity and to charity? He did that, not because he was rich but because he saw the need of humanity and it was the motivation he needed to give. You see, motivation comes in various forms just like the case of John D. Rockefeller.

A particular research was done by Global Giving and they found out that motivation makes people to give but they also pointed out the fact that more people tend to be tilted towards the immediate rewards.

In the aspect of giving, however, the quantity may not be as important as the quality. Take for example: When someone that is worth over $1bn gives $1k and another person that is worth barely $500 gives $50, who do you think gave more? You see, just like motivation of giving varies, quality of giving also varies. This is also the reason many people can give without loving or even having a hearth for humanity but the truth is, you can't love and you can't have a heart for humanity without giving.

In giving, always learn to give with a smile. We talked about the psychology of Smile a few days back and it applies to giving too. Remember, you were not coaxed to give, so do it joyfully to have the benefits of giving. Have you ever seen a farmer that quarrels with his seed while planting? He just sows it and leaves with the hope that a day of harvest is coming. The same thing happens here; no good deed is ever lost. Somehow and someday, it'll speak.

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The story of Dr. Michael Shannon is a very good example of this. He saved the life of a little baby that was born premature. He had to work himself out just to save the boy even after he was given a very slim chance of survival. After about three decades, the little boy was now grow and had chosen a career in fire fighting as a paramedic. On a particular day at duty, he went to rescue a man in a burning SUV. The man already lost consciousness but he had to resuscitate him with the "jaw of life". Guess what, it was that same doctor that had saved his life when he was little.

You see, if the doctor has not put in all of himself to save the boy, the point where the boy would save the doctor would have not existed and the doctor would have died. You don't know what you stand to lose simply by not doing good. Any opportunity you have to do good, just draw the motivation that you are sowing into the future and seize the opportunity. Doing good always pays.

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When it comes to giving, I believe it is essential to understand, that it doesn't deal with the amount in dollars. But, giving is what makes you rich! You can have a million, but if you don't share it, you are actually poor. You can have little, but if you are giving, you are rich! It is all about a mentality, and if you feel so poor with 1 million dollar that you cannot afford giving, then the person with 1000 dollar who feel rich enough to share what he has, is much richer in reality!

Yeah buddy, someone's riches is not a function of the quantity of wealth they have accumulated but a measure of how they are willing to give out to the needs of humanity. Thanks for the comment buddy

giving is a human act of conscience of wanting to make someone progress. I also believe that true happiness is in the awareness of knowing that you are helping someone in need and not only thinking about a profit or economic benefit. It is an act of trust and love for others.

I agree with you buddy. Giving works with the human conscience and brings true happiness.
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What is there in life if it not to help the under privileged. Although I have been hurt in the past by trying to help others, at those periods, I was really angry and I decided not to assist anyone anymore, but a careful look at those situations made me realize my mistakes and I took definite decisions to give in a better way and never expect anything in return if I am given the privilege to give again.

The purpose of living is to create impact and it begins with giving towards the course of humanity. We give, not because the person deserves it but because it is what brings out the human in us and it is what humanity demands.
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Giving has been one topic i have seen a lot of believes on. On like business, people do it to make profit but for giving, there are so many motives behind it and that could be a motivation as well.

A lot of people give just to increase their popularity, so give because they want to be praised, i have a friend who give because it makes him feel on top of the world, others give to receive from a larger bag maybe political good will.

Actually, the value of quantity do not freak me when giving is concerned but the reason and the motivation behind the act.

Taking a picture of yourself giving alms to a person just to publish on Social media to get appraisal can also be regarded as giving which is what most people do (some people say they do it to give people a proof that they actually did what they say) well why say what you give? Because you want to satisfy a feeling that prompted the giving.

You're so right buddy. Many people give just to show off, and this has already defeated the purpose of giving. Giving should not be done for publicity but to create impact.

Thank you for a nice article. Giving is so important and it is so relative to the ability of the giver to give. I have experienced several times in my travel that a poor family in Africa, Asia or Central America will give so much and so generously - when they have so little to give. However, in Europe quite often people cannot even give a second of their time let alone money.

When we do give though, our hearts feel good. We all have a natural disposition to be kind and generous to each other. It is a shame that some lose sight of this.

I'm so grateful for this nice comment buddy. I've also noticed that many people from poor background tend to give more than rich people. I think the reason is because they have tasted poverty and know the value of giving.
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One thing i can say for sure is that giving comes with a feeling and that feeling is what motivates to give.

True buddy, there's a particular feel-good effect associated with giving.
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Giving has been a thing of the mind while allowing psychology to play in. The only reason people do good or give to the needy is to feel good. Helping someone out of pity make the person feel good to help, doing it for public notification is also feeling good. So, feeling good is just the major reason for helping people.

I quite agree with you. One of the motivations of doing good is to feel good. Thanks for your comment buddy

When you give without expecting anything in return, you live a life of achievement and freedom.

Wow! This comment is a statement of truth. Thanks a lot buddy @ajewa

All of us as humanity have much to give, and in these moments of global health crisis we can give much love and solidarity to those who need it most, sometimes giving a breath of solidarity is more than all the money in the world. Thank you for sharing such an emotional and thoughtful article. Greetings friend

I agree with you buddy. No matter where anyone is and no matter their current status, there is still something that they can give.
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Giving is one topic that comes out repeatedly. I do not think there is anyone that gives for no reason. Giving is act that comes after something inside a person demand to be satisfied. Giving at that point is satisfying that little thing. Everyone has different little things that make them give.

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You are very right and all the stories you tell are real.
I am from Venezuela and my mother always told me that it is better than giving than receiving, and when you have it, it is better to help another when you have and remember when you had absolutely nothing