Maturity VIII, Contributed By @olawalium.

in happiness •  11 days ago

…continued… from part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6 and part 7


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Whatever issue you are having in your relationship or marriage boils down on maturity, if you take a critical look at it. There are some things you don’t need to address. Sometimes, ladies feel the need to address everything which doesn’t go down well with a man. Your man sees you as a nagging lady or woman and this can put a lot of guys off. When complains keep flying in from every angle and every time, your spouse think less of himself or herself; thinking he or she is failing and can’t seem to do anything right. You are not expected to shatter the confidence of your spouse or for your spouse not to be himself or herself around you. Deal in maturity, it helps your partner to be free and he or she will readily take your correction in good faith.

An immature person should not handle potency like marriage. Marriage is high potency and it has the capability to determine the outcome of your life. It determines whether you are happy or not. Marriage determines your wellbeing and what you can even achieve. Once your marriage is a hell, it is hard to achieve much in life. The pressure would be too high.


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Marriage determines the trajectory of your life and this is why you need to be sure about what kind of partner you are choosing and why you are picking that person. It should be someone who will complement you and not someone who will bring out your dark parts. It is best to swallow your feelings in marriage. If you go by your feelings all the time in marriage, you will cause a whole lot of havoc. Just because your spouse hurt you and you feel like uttering terrible or discouraging stuff to your spouse doesn’t mean you should. In the heat of argument and hyper emotions, we feel all sorts.

A disagreement is not an excuse to say terrible things to each other. There are things you are not supposed to introduce into your marriage, if you don’t want that trend to continue. There are words that should never be said. There are lines that should never be crossed. Even when you have a point to make, there are better ways to go about it. Your choice of words matters a whole lot in any discussion. How you speak determines how the situation will die down or be aggravated.


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Your primary focus should never be to hurt your partner but to seek their happiness. It doesn’t mean you are a fool, it means you value your happiness as well as your spouse’s, more than any lingering reservations. Give it a day and you will wonder how you could have thought of some things and do things differently. Give it few months and you will likely to have forgotten. Time erases transgressions in our memory, so stop clutching on to what is not really necessary.


Thank you for your time.


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I agree with you that marriage is high potency. Do marriage if you are mature enough to understand the basic rules .
For the better outcome in future, both the parties should ignore little mistakes. As little mistakes sometimes causes big problems in understanding.

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Yes, little issues and taking too much notice of them degenerate into big issues. We need to act mature by overlooking things and also addressing issues with a calm mind.

Thanks a lot my friend.

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I love its publication, maturity is necessary for marriage, and also for everyday life, we must understand some points and respect the spaces of our couple when they need it, I love their dedication, excellent subject.

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Thanks a lot charmer!. Really glad you enjoyed this. I love the fact that we should respect our partner's space. We can't always expect them to be at their peak, so we should give them space and show a little more understanding.

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It really is like that, excellent

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Smiles.

Maturity is about keeping each other happy. Do not let any misunderstanding to crop between them which may lead to disagreement in marriage. Even if there is any doubt or issue just behave mindfully and try to mend the relationship rather than letting it go easily. A mature person always hold to the relationship no matter what the situation is.

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This is beautiful; a mature person always hold on to the relationship by subjecting his ego to the side and seek resolutions. This is good my friend. Yes, we need to deal with issues with a little bit more maturity.

You are right its not advice able for immaturity to get married cos its a long time journey which maturity is highly needed.
Maturity covers a lot, you keep mute when your spouce is in anger or you just go out and come back later if you cant just take what they say

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Exactly. We need to do what works for us that can pacify our anger which may provoke us to speak words we are not supposed to or do what we are not supposed to do. Walk away, sleep over it, address it later, whatever it is that works for us. Maturity is needed.

Until you eradicate the spirit of retaliation from marriage which can only be by maturity, you havent started anything at all. Never seek to hurt your spouse back on whatever the issue is. Today is yours, tomorrow might not be.
NB: There are more eyes watching you guys than you ever thought and their inference about your marriage go a long way than you ever imagine.
Marriage can either be a Positive or negative catalyst to your achievements (my rephrase) of what you said which is an undeniable truth. Cheers boos.

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Thanks for this addition and it is not farther from the truth. Too much eyes are looking watching, and studying, and we need to be careful and set right example. Maturity can determine what we get in a relationship.

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Without doubt sir. That's an honest truth.