From my daughter's bedside: A serious future

in future •  2 months ago

If you are not aware, I sink a lot of time and energy into Steem and have done for about the last year and a half. In January I will reach two years on the platform.

There are many reasons for the effort in with some of the loftier and idealistic ones carried by the belief we are part of something important here or at least, could be. The more base reasons are of course the opportunity for a little financial freedom for myself and family. I see Steem as providing an opportunity to satisfy both my higher and lower goals to some degree.

Me spending so much time here of course takes a toll on other factors of life and I am a self-employed consultant too. I see both of these things feeding each other and, a contingency in case either fails.

I am hoping to get into a position where I don't have to continually chase money while running from debt collectors and, if I can do that while being part of a community and helping some others do the same, all the better.

To find some stability which is currently not possible with my own business alone, I sink most of my many waking hours into developing content, answering comments and sitting in chats. If people have an image of someone that has nothing else to do than sit at a computer all day, you are imagining the wrong person.

I am pretty hard on myself and I push very hard when I recognize an opportunity because, I have missed far too many in the past. At what point will I learn that the easy path today makes the future more difficult, that shortcuts often lead to unwanted destinations? Well, this is me taking the long path, the one where sleep can wait, as can holidays and entertainment.

Someone stated yesterday "oh, you saw this and this unterview too" because of something I wrote. No. I don't really see anything, when would I have the time? The only times I make the time to be entertained is through the suggestions of others as I am rarely bored enough in mind to seek for something to do.

Entertainment perhaps for me is having the space to create something, not consume it. This isn't a judgement on others, we can all do what we want with the tools we have at our disposal. I don't have many tools, so I try to use what I have as effectively as I can.

However, at some point I am going to have to slow down on the creation and reduce the time spent so I can pick up other things, learn and experience more than the view of my laptop screen on my kitchen table. I have to also sometimes go to bed before 4am.

The time is hopefully coming though that I will get to a point where I am still able to satisfy my higher and lower order goals without having to burn the stick of dynamite at both ends. That time isn't now although, I am going to start pushing harder so I can get to sleep earlier.

The funny thing about being here is being able to view many of the different strategies people have to face challenge and the advice they give. I write from my experience and give my perspectives but, I don't tell anyone what I think they should do. Too many ask in my opinion but more should instead become their own authority and investigate and learn without looking for answers to be given.

In particular, don't take what I say as advice because I can only speak from my experience and only I and my wife know the workload, investment and costs of this particular opportunity so far.

I often get criticised for taking this too seriously but, I think if we don't take the things we think are important and valuable to our own future seriously, do we ever have the right to complain about our current position? We all got to today somehow, today is yesterday's future. Did you take yesterday seriously?

There is no future more important in this world to me than that of my daughter's at this time and I think I now have a chance to give her more of a chance. I never questioned if I would be a good father, the only fear I have is if I can provide enough for her to have the opportunity and space to discover her best self.

I see that my work here is another contingency approach because while I may have a chance to earn, I may also have a chance to be part of building a system that gives space to my daughter as well as other children like her. When I think of the future of Steem, blockchains and cryptocurrencies, I am looking long. Decades long.

Everyone has answers of what needs to change now but the question should be asked first, where do we want too be? and then, act now. What people will generally find is that the road to where they want to be is filled with a lot more work than they are currently putting in and often, the work is in places they are currently avoiding because they aren't enjoyable.

This life may be meaningless but it doesn't mean it need be without purpose. When people continually say, "I don't know what I want to do with my life", I think, Why not?

If they see it as a problem, perhaps they need to get a bit more serious and, find out. The choice is theirs if they do or don't but, nothing is free and no one can hand it too them.

Taraz
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I often get criticised for taking this too seriously

Opinion is an interesting creature. Everyone needs to have something to take seriously and you can guarantee it there will be plenty of different opinions on what it should be. The main thing is that it is important to the one taking it seriously. Without something important to you in your life, you have no reason for being.

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Without something important to you in your life, you have no reason for being.

What I think I am seeing more these days is a reduction in value of what is considered important. Yes, it is subjective and each have their own path but what some people consider 'necessary and vital' doesn't amount to much as too often it is consumptive behaviour.

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too often it is consumptive behaviour.

Oh, I agree, but if you take that away then they are left with nothing. They, themselves, are the only ones who can find a new 'necessary and vital' and I don't think it's easy in this consumer system they've grown up in. As a child I collected useless objects to find some importance in life. Ornaments, decorative candles. Yet some go into adulthood continuing to place that importance on collections like this. Particularly those who never find a partner to make a connection or a family with. We have become so isolated in some ways.

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I like your way of thinking and assuming some things, @tarazkp. In my case, I'm a teacher and now I'm on vacation, so I've tried to get some work done around here because it's going to be time to get back to my formal job and I know I won't be able to dedicate all the time steemit deserves. I think about the future and that's why I see this platform as a way to make it clearer. But I must say that I set timetables, for my own and my family's good. I don't think I trade my hours with them for anything in the world! Maybe I'll start earning more, if I risk more and participate more, but even now I feel good like that. Good start to the week.

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But I must say that I set timetables, for my own and my family's good. I don't think I trade my hours with them for anything in the world!

I am always careful with this and if it is any indicator, my two year old still speaks English and I am pretty much the only reason why :) I am also careful to remember that it isn't the amount of time spent, it is the quality of that time. I think too many these days 'spend time' with family without actually being there.

It's a tough balancing act and investing (in whatever way) in steemit when you have a young family is quite demanding. Fingers crossed for all of us!

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Definitely fingers crossed for all of us. If this all plays out well, we have a lot of opportunity as a collective and individuals. If it doesn't, the same group have to take responsibility.

Your daughter is still quite young, so will lap up whatever time you give her without complaint. The sacrifice is more yours (missing time with her) and your wife’s ( missing time with you) right now. So a great time to really put in the hours preparing for her financial future. When she gets old enough that the greatest sacrifice starts being hers, I suspect she’ll let you know. Hopefully you’ll be able to pivot then. Or at least reallocate time somewhat by then.

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The sacrifice is more yours (missing time with her) and your wife’s ( missing time with you) right now.

Yep, I don't think my wife minds all that much.

Hopefully you’ll be able to pivot then. Or at least reallocate time somewhat by then.

This is another stepping stone phase of life that could lead on to more I think.

Everyone's sacrifice is different and ours is time and effort. The ones that feel it are your family and your self. Having an understanding is fine as that is the support you need. Dedication for a period of time is total commitment and it in my view is a two years well spent.

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I am not sure how it will all turn out at the end of the day but at least I have the feeling I am doing something of value. True or not.

It does take a while to find out what you want to do sometimes though. It's the path less taken for sure, where people go to fulfill their dreams.

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Of course, I find that those who ask the question though have rarely explored too far. Many seem to bury themselves in some distraction and then wonder why they haven't found a path.

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Man you are so right. This world is full of distractions!

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There's nothing more important than providing for your daughter's future, just do you're best so that you can be in your daughter's future, too - something I think she'd appreciate more than financial security. Going to bed at 4 am is not the right way to do that. It works for now, but you should consider slowing down - for your daughter's sake. Sorry for being blunt!

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just do you're best so that you can be in your daughter's future,

I wonder about this sometimes as I know quite a few people who have lost parents young in various ways and have grown up well adjusted. I am not saying this is the goal but I also wonder how important it is that a or both parents are actually surviving if a child gets support from other areas.

"There is no future more important in this world to me than that of my daughter's"

I think to live one's life for another is the greatest thing a person can ever do.

That is the ultimate meaning of life. If one can do that.

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I think to live one's life for another is the greatest thing a person can ever do.

I also want to demonstrate that one should also live to one's best too. It is a conflict position.

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I don't think it's a conflict, since the motivation to live one's life for another is the motor that drives one to be one's best.

At the very least, every day is an interesting experience. How effective my day is for the future, I don't know for sure. When I die, I will know I had an interesting ride! Hopefully those I leave behind will cherish their own life experiences more, for having known me.
The feeling I get is that you add to the lives of those around you. Well done, I say!

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Hopefully those I leave behind will cherish their own life experiences more, for having known me.

This can take many forms and I think it is an important thing to consider. Are the people/ the world better off for having us in it?

I do not think you take this place too seriously - I think you have clearly identified what you want and are going for it with all you've got...there is nothing more noble than that.

Entertainment perhaps for me is having the space to create something, not consume it.

I find we are very much alike in this regard

By the time you slow down, I am hoping you will be in a position to smile and admire all the work you've put in for yourself, family and others here on steemit

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I don't know about clearly identified but, I have a general direction :)

There is opportunity for many people here if they put the time and effort into the right areas.

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Ignorance is also a position

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yes it is. It is rarely bliss in the mid- to long-term of a life.