Have you tried being hurt by someone who’s so dear to you and who seemed to be the only one who mattered in your life? Has anyone ever tried kneeling in front of you just to be forgiven? Was there ever a time when you promised to yourself that you can never be capable of forgiving someone?Even the person you can’t afford to hurt can hurt you in such a way where you can’t even think that forgiveness exists.Forgiveness is not something ready-made. It’s a gift to be given without coercion, it’s something you can’t just ask and get as easy as getting your most favorite candy or lollipop. There are even times when you meet people who are experts in saying sorry and would ask for forgiveness as if it’s something you owe them. Saying sorry is easy, forgiving is not. I always believe that It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an ever stronger person to forgive. It’s easier to ask forgiveness than it is to get permission.
However, life is too chaos if one cannot master the art of forgiveness. You can’t be the happiest if you don’t know exactly how to forgive.Yes, There will always come a time when forgiveness can just be given as free as the air we breathe. For me, as much as you can’t beg love to be given to you, it is the same with forgiveness. I don’t know how it can happen when you suddenly wake up one day realizing that you’ve forgiven the very person whom you think deserves no forgiveness from you.
I think you can only forgive when you have let go of the hurt. Forgiving is not forgetting. It’s letting go of the hurt. Time- it’s the only thing that can heal the pain, it’s the only key for forgiveness. In time you have to forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.