Meeting me, meeting you
It's really nice to meet you, please, take a seat.
For now, just let me speak, you can have your turn in a moment. I just want to tell you a few of the observations I have seen as I have been watching you a long time now. Honestly, you aren't doing well, not as well as you could be and probably should be. You have been neglecting so much, and not learning anywhere near enough. I know, you have excuses.
Yes, excuses. No time, health issues and a lack of resources but, even with all of the challenges. If you just pay attention, listen to yourself rather than the voices of others, you would be enjoying life a lot more, you would be creating so much more, you will be creating a foundation.
I watch you, but I question why you take every situation you are in so seriously, why not relax a little, unwind, enjoy the company of friends without judging them or yourself on what you do. Experiment more, not every relationship you get into needs to be suitable for marriage. Honestly, if you looked closely, the ones you think are one way, are likely not.
You are spending too much time being entertained, not enough building skills. Is one more level or rank really going to matter in five or ten years do you think? Watching one more formatted movie or series going to improve your life? you are limiting your future by wasting the now.
You don't judge well, though you think you do.
Can I speak now?
Look at yourself. Look at the time you spend working, the times you miss, the hours of potential enjoyment that flash by while you think you are building a future. Are you really so different to me? Are you doing and learning what you need to to be in a better position. What are you neglecting?
I have been watching you too you know, you judge me but often fail to look into the mirror and see yourself clearly, see that you are serious too, too serious most likely. You want to do so much yet fail to enjoy the moment with your wife and child, preparing for a future that may never come. Aren't you the fool? Working instead of living?
If I was in your position, I would enjoy the moments more, spend time chilling out in front of the television, gaming a little, buying some nicer clothes. You are slipping, letting yourself slide, that belly the shirt no longer hides need not be there but, you aren't finding the time either are you?
You wear yourself thin, sleep too little, eat too much, exercise too little, work too much. Yes, you are learning a lot and perhaps it will pay off, but what will be left of you to enjoy what you are creating. You are trying to make up for the past by rushing in the now, is it going to end well?
You judge me with hipocracy.
Excuse me, I couldn't help but overhear, do you mind if I sit and speak?
You are both fools, clever fools, too clever for your own good. Look at me, this is where it leads. A body neglected and ravaged by time and neglect, a wife lost, a distant daughter all because of a past where I tried to create a future for them. For us.
You are a fool for not learning when you can and, you are a fool for not taking some time to enjoy the moments. Life speeds by faster as it goes until you reach this point I hold now, freefall. I didn't look after my body when I had the energy of youth and dismissed my mind when I had the chance to grow. You both live in fear of the past and of the present, but mostly, the uncertanty of the future.
There are no guarantees but this is where you are headed. Illness through physical laziness, poverty through a lack of work and loneliness through the neglect of those in your life, the people who you care for and care for you.
You, young lad, you are wrong, work is all there is. It is what makes this life worthwhile, it is the creative force of constructed beauty if used as such. Your body takes work, your mind takes work, your relationships take work. You want to make this world better? Discover what is required, and work at it.
And you, you are wrong too and are old enough to know better. Did you not learn from observing him? Why are you so serious, why so few smiles, why the judgement still? Age obviously doesn't bring wisdom, awareness does. You are unaware but perhaps waking up. Open your eyes and you may not become me.
Look at me, is this your future, or only mine? Now judge.
Taraz
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These lines make me think like you are talking to me straight into my eyes. honestly i am not doing well, i am trying to overcome my depression so hardly. I went to the resort and beaches but still there i sat with the sad face with bit of tears in my face. I feel my heart is so heavy. I sometimes thought running far away. Idk what's happening in ma life. I am just living a life with no happiness.
I agree, those lines really got to me as well. Wasn't sure if I wanted to read on, tbh.
And thanks for sharing, @steemit-fun - life is not easy. I wish I could help you overcome it somehow, but as you say, wherever you go, it's not where you are, on the beach, or somewhere, it's about you. I hope you can find the help you need.
Thanks @nobyeni, I am trying my best to overcome this. I hope ill find my happiness again.
My opinion is that happiness is a feeling like any other, it comes and goes. To experience it takes understanding that avoidance of issues does not help, pleasure will never stop depression, just prolongue it further. Take the opportunity here to discover yourself, write, work out what the real issues are. You will likely find it has nothing to do with your circumstances. I am with company now but, if you want to talk more later, you can find me under the same name in steemit.chat
Thanks for the chat invitation brother, i really appreciate it. 3 years ago i graduated from my university then i got placed in some startup company, i worked there for 1 year, meanwhile i fell love with my coworker and we had 1 year of relationship. My boss used to crush on her, he used to ask her to come inside very often to discuss something irrelevant. I asked him why he is doing it, from them he started targeting me, i didn't like and i left the company. Then my gf left me because she wanted to patch up with her ex again. Since then i went to depression for one year, i locked myself in my room and didn't even step out of my home gate for 6 months, i lost interest in doing anything. I was a school topper and the only engineer from my village. People at my village and my parents had so much expectations on me, i broke all of those. My dad started looking at me like an enemy. My relatives judged me like i am a well studied useless person. Since then i become more depressed and lost hopes in everything. In the process i fell in love with another girl and she left me after 10 months. I think that i am in the severe stage of depression. No support from my parents, i don't have any friends too. Feeling like a loner, depressed guy outside of the track. I am trying dead hard to get out of this but nothing is helping me out.
Sorry for the long comment. I can relate this post 100% in my life.
It is hard to give advice here but it you mention girlfriends and bosses coming and going, people's expectations and family abandonment. None of that is you, it is all outside of you. They are not the cause of your depression but, they may be a catalyst. Spend some time understanding yourself without worrying about what others think, really understanding. Stay away from motivation and psychology and instead listen or read something like Awareness by Anthony De Mello. Listen and think, repeat and listen and think and see where it all leads.
The chat offer remains open whenever.
Thank you so much for posting this article brother, it helped me to share what i am going through in my life at present. I will surely follow your suggestion listen and think. I am sure i will reach you out there in the chat, thanks for the offer again.
So sorry to hear about your problems. Thank you for sharing, it touches me.
I hope you can go back to that part in yourself that has nothing to do with all of that, that can forget about the expectations that stress you out. That part that is the real you, the value that you have inside you. Keep searching for that, something that you can bring to the world, not because everybody wants you to, but because that is who you are.
I do hope you can also find some one whom you can talk to about this, and who can maybe help you find that value in yourself. Depression is not something to be taken lightly, and it's very much okay to ask for help in this.
Lately I read the book 'Man's Search for Meaning', it's very short, maybe you can find it somewhere. It's about a man who also lost everything, was a prisoner in a concentration camp, and he talks about how important it is to find what meaning you have. He speaks about his true own experiences. He says that it's not about what life asks you, but what you ask from life. His name, the author's, is Viktor Frankl, I hope maybe reading it helps you a little to find a way to move forward.
Thank you so much for the suggestion. And thanks for your caring words, it really means a lot. I guess that book helps me for sure.
"You are a fool for not learning when you can and, you are a fool for not taking some time to enjoy the moments. Life speeds by faster as it goes until you reach this point I hold now, freefall. I didn't look after my body when I had the energy of youth and dismissed my mind when I had the chance to grow. You both live in fear of the past and of the present, but mostly, the uncertanty of the future."
This make me think a lot.. in this moment I feel that this line you write to me, somehow, in some way I need to AWAKE! don't be a fool! Make work it, make your world a perfect place to stay...
Thanks @tarazkp, I really like it!
Is there such thing as right or wrong when it comes to how we use our time? What if you do all the right things and work hard on them, but end up failing or something happens and it is taken away from you anyway? Either we decide to use our time to work hard or to do nothing, we should enjoy it and being serious sucks. Sucks the life out of you.
Working is for the work itself, not for the outcome of where it may or may not lead. Goals are important but, failure to meet them is not necessarily a failure in hindsight and often leads to greater places. Some people are happy doing nothing until they find out where that leads. Inaction is an action.
Well, there is an old and popular saying on my neck of the woods which 'literally' goes around the lines of:
"Better knows the devil by 'old' than by devil"
So, imho.. always keep trusting in your most inner instincts no matter what and never take your eyes off the reflection in the mirror. :)
Looking in isn't the problem. Seeing what peers back is what is scary.
That's exactly why the only 'external peer' that matters, is that one behind the mirror. Regardless the depth behind that mirror in which that peer is laying. :)
Nice cool
Oh my God! Sometimes I have a problem reading long posts, but this one was different. Maybe because it is exactly what I wanted to read and very realistic. Seriously I enjoyed reading it and every word in it speaks the truth about us. We became slaves busy with things that we are not supposed to be busy with. Leaving our happiness and our true self behind!
I think for many of us, we need to untangle the past, future and our present from each other and work out who we are at this moment and then, see if our behaviour is suitable. There are too many conflicts within us between what we want, and where we want to go, while we carry the baggage of where we have been.
In my opinion, you've got the answer - take some time to enjoy the present, build some memories - they'll come in one day just as precious as all the other things you work so hard for.
:)
Great story. I think we all try to find that kind of balance between work and family and health. This story really speaks to me around the holidays. Do you use time off to get stuff done? Do spend more time with your family? Do you indulge in more junk food at the party? Living a good life comes through finding the correct balance, much easier said than done.
Work at them all and when relaxing, relax fully. It is hard to relax when in the back of the mind there are things you know you should have taken care of first.
This is excellent, especially when you added the third character. And how many people you include in the conversation that is how many opinions there would be. And the best part is that peoples opinions change, so that means there are infinite number of ways of leading a life. No wright or wrong way, just different, but everyone can judge only themselves.
we work to make more holidays in the majority of our lives
But in fact we are destroying our own time.
We are going to work harder to gain private time for ourselves
but we are not aware that we actually consume our own time.
we have to watch where life takes us
@tarazkp
It seems you are talking to me literally.i was motivated by your word that goes like this " when you pay attention to yourself you will be more creative.this is true talk.thank for affecting my life today.more inspiration fall on you in order to change our thinking pattern in jesus name