Fathers are unsung heroes
Fathers are often underappreciated for their contribution to their family mainly because most men follow the belief system: “strong men don’t show emotions”. So it makes it tough for most men to connect to their kids though they literally sacrificed their entire lives for one and only one thing – to offer a quality life for their kids on a golden platter.
My relationship with my father took me on a journey from a carefree child to waging an uphill battle with my life, and back to becoming free again. He was strict, yes really really strict. He freaked out when I was hanging out with friends who he perceived as losers, he would yell when my grades went down, and he grounded me when I was partying after 10 PM. While the stringent childhood helped me earn a college degree and opened the world of opportunities as my father wished for, it also took a toll on my adult life as I was constantly afraid to make a mistake fearing punishment and society’s judgement.
However, all that changed after I met my wife who saw the best in me. Her transformation with coaching inspired me to hire a coach Neil Goldstein, an MIT graduate and now an executive coach who helped me gain awareness of my thoughts. I was able to reverse the negative impact my stringent childhood had on me so I could experience freedom again, caring less about what others think and instead following my heart. Today I see a life presented in front of me on a golden platter just like my father wished for, and none of this would have happened without my father’s fierce protection in my childhood. I could have easily become a drug addict, alcoholic, rapist, murderer or suffered depression as an unloved child – the qualities which are not easily reversible as an adult, but he did not let that happen. While my dad was tough many times, he ALWAYS cared and loved. Even as a kid I never questioned his steadfast commitment to my well being.
To this day I cherish my self-restraint skills that my father helped me cultivate by being strict which helps me stay disciplined in areas I choose to practice self-restraint. Fathers are unsung heroes and it is true in my case. I have until now underappreciated my dad only because he loved me fiercely. If you love your Dad and haven’t recognized his greatness and love he showed for you, acknowledge him before it’s too late. Happy Father’s day Dad.
A father and a son's journey has been perceived different, the father mentors and then the son is expected to use what has learned to make to a start on his own journey his way, where he may identify and meet other mentors who will teach him. If he looks as life filled with leaders then there are few are mentors, if he looks as life filled with bosses then fewer can teach you.
Unlike women in most societies who are communal, we are expected to to the strong silent ones who protect our secrets and techniques to stay ahead. That's why many communities with more mentors do better.
Thank that good woman, you were fortunate to get that mentor too work with that mentor.
Communities with lots of good mentors are what make many good men, who can make their way in life as leaders and teachers not as bosses moving nothing forward.
If you did not get into that circumstance you could have been down a very very very different path in life and well worse for you would have been.
I know because the transitions I had to make was from as employee to working as a consultant was the lack of with mentor-ship for me. And that's in technical fields.
In life you have it more difficult because with out a social crowd to teach relationship info your dead in the water.
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Very true, how about this somebody i do business witg had a baby on fathers day haha
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