State Ownership Of Children: CPS And Me

I've written over the past several days about CPS and figure that might share some of my own experience with them (which lasted 10 years). Most people that read my writing on Steemit know my story, but for those that don't, briefly... I was an orphan. My mother died when I was 5 and for the next 5 years I was passed around by a bunch of pedophiles until my uncle rescued me when I was 10. He died about 2-3 years later and I've been pretty much on the streets since... all I've ever really wanted was to be a part of a family. I got married at 42 to a woman who had two small boys- my battle with CPS began then.

I don't believe in step-parents or step-children... a family is a family and I wanted to adopt the boys. Of course CPS had to come out and "investigate." After the interrogation, my youngest son (that's how I've always seen the boys) came out of his bedroom in tears. The CPS workers made it very clear from the outset that those kids belonged to the state (Michigan) and not my wife and I. My son informed me after they left that they told him not to tell what had gone on in the interview or they would take him away. The adoption went through, but unbeknownst to me, I was "on the list."

While I was in college, the boys were in public school and they came home and said that a social worker had passed out questionnaires asking questions about families. So I went to investigate and was told again in no uncertain terms that those children were property of the state. For some reason I still cannot fathom a neighbor at married housing turned us in to CPS, stating that we kept the kids (we had 4 by then) locked in their rooms and fed them by slipping slices of bologna under the door. When CPS showed up to investigate, the boys were outside playing and the girls were watching TV. The bedroom doors have no locks and there was wall-to-wall carpeting so you couldn't slip a sheet of paper under the door. I guess we were lucky because they let us off with a "warning."

My next run in came when we decided to homeschool. My wife worked at a bank doing computer work and I taught part-time at a local community college and did guest lectures. I made enough to pay the land payment and we lived off my wife's salary. We would have done much better if I had worked full time, but we agreed to make the sacrifice so the kids would get a better education. Of course CPS showed up again and spent about 2 hours looking at papers and going over the curriculum. This went on every 2 or 3 months.

When my girls were 7 and 9 they both developed labial adhesion. I won't go into detail, I'm sure women understand- suffice to say it was extremely painful to urinate. We took them to a gynecologist who put them on hormone therapy. When we went, I didn't feel comfortable going in when they were examined... it wasn't necessary, my wife was there. The doctor encouraged me to come in but I didn't feel right about it. It took several months for the hormones to work and one weekend they were having a particularly hard time going to the bathroom and we couldn't get ahold of the doctor so my wife took them to the emergency room. The doctor said that it was next to impossible for them to both have the same condition so he called CPS saying it was sexual abuse. They took the girls. They next morning we called their doctor who had us meet her at the hospital. She reamed that doctor 4 new assholes. She told him is they were sexually abused their vaginas would be opened, not grown shut. Then we went to CPS and she let them have it as well. She told them if we didn't get those girls back immediately she would call the governor and start writing editorials. If I ever have to go back into combat- I want her with me! We had the girls back within hours.

After all of the stories I've heard, I suppose I was very lucky... there were so many times I could have lost my kids. Many people weren't so fortunate. If you have children, you need to watch this video by a former CPS investigator. If you love children, you need to watch it... he is very forthcoming about how CPS operates and gives very good advice to parents or parents to be.

GIF by @papa-pepper