Many times you have heard the children arguing for toys and then the screams come, after a while they calm down and then the dispute over the toys returns. In this case the main task of the parents is to teach the child little by little and with a lot of patience that lending a toy is not the same as losing it, that many things belong to him, but that others do not.
Sharing is one of the most difficult skills to teach our children, as it requires a lot of time, effort and practice. From an early age children can learn to share, however some studies show that from 4 to 5 years old children are ready to share toys, materials, etc.
Most preschoolers have a lot of fun drawing, make gifts for mom and dad, and share the snack with the little friends. In this stage the children learn that it is nice to give and that it is very fun to share with their classmates, therefore you can teach them to share, encouraging them to be generous and treating them with great affection.
If you want your child to learn to share, consider the following:
Allow your children to interact with other children, because in this way the child learns that sometimes he has to give in and they will understand that sharing is not so bad. Teach team games where several players work together to achieve a common goal.
It is very important to keep in mind that children can not be forced to share, he must be prepared and for that the child must be encouraged by their parents, families and educators.
Do not punish the child when he does not want to share since this will cause the child to have resentment and not generosity. We must also bear in mind that it is good that your child does not share certain things, as he grows up he will learn to share with his friends.
Never compare your child with other children, remember that children do not have the same rhythm of development.
Talk to the child and use words that stimulate and motivate the children to share. For example, congratulate him when another child touches his toys.
If your child does not want to leave the toy, explain that sharing is not the same as giving it away and tell him that if he shares his toys with his friends, they are more likely to share theirs with him.
Check with your child before taking their things (colors, pencils, scissors, toys, etc.) and give them the option of deciding whether to lend or not, also make sure that their siblings, friends and family also respect their things and take care when the child lends his things.
The only way your child can learn to be generous is to be a witness of generosity, that is, if the child sees you sharing, he will also share.
Finally, do not forget to teach your child that feelings, stories, thoughts and ideas can also be shared.