Too many parents don't know what to do when their children start talking to them in an ultimatum order. More often this happens in adolescence. But sometimes, preschoolers begin to interact with their parents without any respect.
Everything is repairable. The main thing is not to deviate from the principle of educating kindness, honesty, justice and gratitude in a child. The most effective method of education is your own example. But there are several more strategies that will help you raise children.
Being polite is not a simple formality. When you say "thank you", after someone helped you with something or you got something, you confirm that there is an interaction, a commitment.
Even children who are learning to walk can learn to say "Thank you," "please," "goodbye." A preschooler needs to be explained that he should look at the person he is addressing. Be prepared for the fact that you have to repeat this more than a hundred times. Whenever a child forgets to say "thank you" or "I'm sorry," say it instead.
If you are going to a specific place where you need to behave in a certain way (church, museum, work, restaurant, etc.), make sure your baby understands what is required of him. Explain in detail what can or cannot be done and why. And be sure to clarify that if children behave inappropriately, they will immediately go home. If the children behaved well, don't forget to praise them and tell us why you are very happy with the child's behavior.
If your child begins to speak some rude words, or calls him out of revenge for a prohibition or denial of something, stop him immediately. If such communication is permissible in the family, then it can be used in relation to other people.
Explain to the child that no matter how annoying he may not be rude to other people. Teach to express your irritation more loyally. For example, "I am very angry because ...", "I am upset / upset ...".
Have the child tell the cause of his anger / irritation. Let him talk about his emotions, this will help him to understand that a natural feeling of anger or irritation does not entitle him to insult other people. This, by the way, applies to many adults, since it is not sad to realize.
Help your child learn to control their emotions, express them with words. Tell the children that if they didn't contain themselves and were rude to someone, they should apologize. After all, only a strong person can admit their mistakes.
Teach to listen
If you give someone your time and attention, this is one of the main indicators of your respect. To make sure your child is sure he is listening, stop thinking about his worries and look him in the eye. He will also silence his son when he talks to him.
No one but you will teach your baby that it is impolite to interrupt an adult conversation. You have to wait until the conversation is over. Play the situation when the child tells you something, and then Dad runs or someone else starts to interrupt him.
Set limits and rules
Children should know that the world does not revolve around them and their desires. Also, if the rules are not followed at home, then in kindergarten and school, this can be a problem. You cannot allow the child everything. You are not alone in the whole world. Then there can be disastrous consequences of such collusion.
To comply with the rules, they must be clearly formulated. Explain to the child each point of the rule, why it is important and what will happen if it is not followed. Be prepared to constantly repeat the rules so they don't forget.
Teach your child to see the versatility of the world, help expand their horizons. This will help you in the future to find many new and interesting things, make new friends and learn to find non-standard ways of different situations.
Start with the promotion. Let the child try to get acquainted with other children. After talking with his classmates, the child will see that each child is different, and each one has his own and cannot. Also, according to his own example, he will feel the importance of certain rules. Then, children learn to find a common and different communication with other children.
Show children the variety.
Children instantly notice when someone differs something. Be it the color of the skin, the length of the hair, the color of the dress, they will definitely tell you. Don't shut up your baby right away, better teach him to respect the difference. Tell us that not like everyone else does not mean bad. Of course, for the child to understand all the power of diversity, he must give him access to the necessary information.
When we try to teach a child to respect others, we help him develop a sense of gratitude and interaction.