The syndrome of self-injury - Why children resort to this practice and how to help them?

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In our society, although it seems an isolated fact that this type of situation occurs, it is something real and worrisome, of which, yes, we must be alarmed, but more than that, we must know how to act in that situation.

Children cut their hands and legs, get injured more and more, and this is part of a very risky emotional conflict. These damages to the own body, are produced and realized of conscious and intentional way.

The main origin is to be in an environment where you are not allowed to express emotions, whether parents, strong and traumatic problems, where you can not express, then the output that the child sees is self-inflicted or expresses the pain, controlled; In certain episodes or moments.

The lack of control and this self-attack to the body, leads to an environment of security, in the form of illusion, where it is thought that the pain to be felt is being controlled, but in reality it is doing even more damage.

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Ways in which children manifest these self-injuries

• Burns.
• Cuts.
• Scratches.

Usually they usually self-injure in abdomen, legs, places where it is not easily visible to other people around them.

Children who suffer from the syndrome do so in order to release emotions or stress. It is thought that in this way the intolerant tension that they feel and that they think is unsustainable is relieved.

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Are these behaviors generated spontaneously or do they only copy the behavior of another person?

This is something multifactorial, undoubtedly, there are often those who hurt themselves, and when the friend sees it, instead of forgetting it, it turns out that it encourages him to act in the same way. At the beginning it can be something that is heard and then explained, what will happen later. As a result, those around him, affecting his life.

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In many it turns out to be a physical satisfaction of the person, but it is for a moment, for not feeling another pain that already has and is not of the physical type. It is a derivation of emotions and is more linked to relief than pleasure.

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How do we make children talk about what they feel and do not get to suffer from this syndrome or type of behavior?

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The essential thing is that the adult communicates with the child, although what is expected is that they come to us, but in many cases this is not the case, and when the situation must be addressed it is necessary to move forward, so as not to wait. For an unwanted accident.

It is not about invading them, that is very important, because in the middle of the worry and the search for answers we press them. At this stage it is essential to give them space, without leaving them alone, it is to be observers of what happens, to dedicate quality time, example:

• Play with them, regardless of age.
• Go for a walk.
• Talk everyday things, that make a difference, because when they are done it is better and it brings benefits than when you do not do them.

These children perceive it as a real interest, and spaces of trust are created, it is something that is not forced but gradual.

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Indicators of patterns of self-attack or self-injury

When you see traits that differ from your normal behavior, as they are in some cases:

• Stay isolated.
• Always be locked in the room.
• When it is hidden.
• By dressing suddenly all the time with long-sleeved clothing or just jeans. Be always hidden.
• When the same injury is observed repeatedly.
• Rebels.
• Aggressive.
• When the child loses interest, because of the things he enjoyed.

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Reasons for children to self-harm and mitigate painful emotions

Children feel pressured, not knowing how to deal with situations, example of the reasons that lead to self-harm:

• Separation of parents.
• Feel alone.
• When you feel sentimental pain.
• Not being accepted in groups and feeling different
• When they do not know how to express emotions.

The person who hurts himself experiences his problem as an addiction, because this is perceived as a stronger act of his will not to do so.

A person who suffers, to avoid pain consciously produces more pain, pretending to evade emotional pain, resorting to physical pain.

With physical pain, the child is in control, while emotionally it is out of reach if he does not know how to react to situations.

The syndrome of self-injury must be worked in parallel, both with the child and with the parents, and thus investigate the background of the situation and be able to look for tools that can help.

Greetings educators and motivators of education.

@SteemitEducation

@Edu-Venezuela

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