thanks @lucylin, whether or not it is intentional it is the reality, a newborn should be in it's mothers arms and no where else, not in any one else's that's for sure and not being examined, that first hour at least longer if it can happen, we are born with the instinct to feed and that is taken from us if we are not in our mothers arms, also the mother's body releases hormones when with her baby that help expel the placenta and again that can not happen if they are not together, it is such a complex magical time that us humans are missing out on and as a result we are born fearful and experiencing separation anxíety