You could say that the word patriarchy had evolved in a way, because while it refered to the male hierarchal rule initially, there are now also women who fulfill this role. It didn't change under the reigns of Victoria or the Elizabeths. Even Maggie Thatcher governed possibly more forcefully than many men have. So perhaps the meaning has become more 'rule of force'.

As we become more equal, however, we need to keep an open mind to ensure that the balance doesn't tip too far the other way and a matriarchy becomes the new rule by force. The boisterousness of children can run the risk of being quashed merely because boys tend to be more boisterous than girls. We are both equally important, but we are also equally different.

Balance is certainly key here. Are there situations where children need to take a deep breath and toughen up? I believe that sometimes there are, for both sexes. So we shouldn't be afraid to teach what we need to teach for fear of stereotyping. I've had situations where I've had to tell my daughters to "toughen up, you'll get through this". They are gymnasts!