It sounds like you had a tough week indeed. We have certainly been there with our children at times as well. The yelling and threatening to run away. Kids can be so irrational when they are upset. I find that it is not always the size of the consequence that matters. What is more important is the discussion that follows and the understanding of what went wrong and how that behaviour can be avoided int he future. I like the idea of earning back the stuff. It shows here that you cared enough not to throw them away and gives her a chance to build back trust.