Valid points! At the end of the day we are all sovereign actors on this blockchain who try to influence others with words and votes. The receiver of such words and votes is sovereign too. Sovereign in his or her right to respond to those words and votes in the manner in which they see fit. Unlike traditional social media who centrally sets the rules, there's a bit of anarchy here. There's no central authority to appeal to, and I'm 100% fine with that.

In a way you have to look at it with fresh eyes, as nobody is going to codify the 'official rules of Steem' for you. The closest thing we have are groups of people with varying stake attempting to exert influence as I have just done. If you're not in agreement, that's fine. You just have to accept that all rules here are ad-hoc for the most part, and the worst case is that we as honest actors both walk away with a differing perspective.