You sound convinced that a man must be the head of the family. I wonder... There are so many tough and successful women here that I read about: Education, studies, own business... Plus family management, caring, etc. And yet in every case a man would be the boss in the house?
If someone were to recommend it to me like that...: I'll be very clear and point out the shortest route to the exit!
Actually, it's a more cultural difference. In some cultures women don't work and have no careers, they take care of the house and family.
Only men work and earn and boss around. And there is no harm in that if both parties are giving and receiving their rights.
In some cultures women also work like men, they earn jusy like men, so here you can say that he will not be my head. Becuase i earn too like you, what's the difference?
You see it? Mutual rights if both earn. Or head will be the one who earns.
In our culture, men are bound to earn and take care of the needs of her wife and family. If anyone does against it, he loses his worth.
And same goes for women, she must has to take care of her family first.
Of course, I'm aware of that. It was no different in Europe until a few decades ago. The question is: does there necessarily have to be one right way? Is it not rather a question of personal choice, of one's own life plans? Shouldn't everyone be able to make this decision for themselves and therefore with their partner...?
I find it difficult - in both directions - if a social consensus is to be reached where individual priorities are concerned.
Personally i believe one should have given the right to get some things sorted in their own way regardless of who the head is like in:
Being the head isn't just financial, as equal as we are men are men. His muscles are to protect me, my muscles can only lift little. Financially many women are doing well and some even better. It is just the African way for men to be able to provide for the family, while the women support.