How Do We Keep Creating After Dislikes + Disappointment?

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How do we stay motivated and get through all of the failures that happen especially when it comes to posting on Steem?

In the seven years of my business online, I've been through a ridiculous number of things going wrong. I just got my Facebook Ads account disabled last week after $120,000 of Ads spent. When I upload new songs on YouTube, I'm losing 50+ subscribers every time.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

Check this last song out that I uploaded, there is minus 58 subscribers within a week or so of uploading.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

This new song, 4 likes and 13 dislikes.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

You see, when we put ourselves out there, we likely will get back a whole lot of negative feedback.

How do we stay motivated when we encounter the two worst things?

The two worst things are, first, we expect all these people to get excited, watch and love what we do. We put our live stream out, we put ourselves vulnerable, we hype ourselves up, and then no one or hardly anyone watches it. Or we do our whole live stream and there are zero people the whole time or there's one.

I did an event once where I advertised the event, I planned the whole event, I rented a conference room at this office, and not one person showed up.

Not one person showed up!

So, I did a completely different topic.

I did the same thing again and no one showed up for it.

Not one person showed up for it!

You know how many failures like that I've had working online?

You might look at a video like this and see 4 likes, 13 dislikes. You look at a video like this other one where I lost 58 subscribers.

When you start out, it takes a while to get 58 subscribers.

I lost 58 in one video!

What keeps me motivated is to remember, why am I doing this?

Am I doing it so people will like me?

I think what helps me a lot is I look at the number of likes. At least people are watching. At least people are listening to this song enough to go through and say, “This sucks. This sucks.”

When people are on my live stream, come along and say, "Oh, nice live stream, Jerry. 200,000 subscribers and 3 viewers."

At least someone took the time to notice.

Any attention, we might say, is good attention although a lot of us are very sensitive. We're trying to record videos and put ourselves out there and sell courses, any attention is helpful for growing our business.

Even sometimes you might say, "Well, how is losing 58 subscribers on one video, how is that helpful?"

It helps me to have a more focused audience.

I can afford to lose a lot of subscribers because a lot of the things I've done have got subscribers who aren't really interested in following me for whatever I create.

They're only interested in very specific things and in that case, it's good to help those people not see my videos.

Another one I was really excited about, this new live music station and again we can see the dislikes.

I've got 18 likes and 39 dislikes on it.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

This was a live stream. I was really excited about this live stream and I was just filled with the wave of sadness and disappointment that day, and every one of these opportunities is a really good opportunity to adjust our strategy.

After this, what you might call disappointment, I adjusted my strategy. I got motivated to start filming, what this video is a part of, the "Complete Live Streaming Course" I'm doing.

I got motivated to start thinking,"Okay, what can I do to help other people? What can I do to buy myself time?"

"As I'm making this live music station it's obvious this is not going to be an overnight thing. I'm not going to just live stream and everyone's going to come love my music and watch it overnight."

"What can I help people with today? What is the most good I can do?"

After a day of sadness because I was so excited about doing this live stream, and very few people were watching it most of the time, just 1, 2 or 3 people, I got motivated to say, "What I'm going to do is start scheduling live streams because I just throw these live streams up and most of all the live stream I have done, I just threw them up with no warning."

I wouldn't do very well with that following someone.

If someone I'm following doesn't let me know when they'll be live there's very little chance I'll show up, and for this live stream, I was not available to answer questions or talk to people.

I realized people want to interact with me and that motivated me to set up a live streaming schedule, which I will talk about more on other videos in this course.

You see, when we get critical feedback, when we get a disappointing performance, like you might think depending on where you are at, that 700 views, 18 likes and a few comments, people on the live stream, is great.

All of us are in relative positions.

For me, this was a very disappointing live stream session with my music because my expectations were too high. If you are expecting one or two people to watch your live stream and nobody watches, that's the same level of disappointment.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

It also helps to set lower expectations, to say that however many people watch is fine, and to respect that I have a duty to create what is most needed. We can see it's not urgent that I make this live music station. What I learned out of making that is what people following me really would like is a look at how I do all the live streaming and how I get all this done.

That's what motivated me to start the "Complete Live Streaming Course" that this video is a part of.

That failure you might say helped to inspire the next thing and I'm guessing this live streaming course, and again with expectations, I think this live streaming course has the ability to be one of my bestsellers ever.

Why?

Because it's a very in-demand skill and I've got a very unique experience that few people in the world are capable of making a course on, and out of the people capable of it, few will take the time to go through and do everything I'm doing in this course, to show how all these live streaming things I use work together, how to do it on so many different platforms, all the equipment I use, etcetera.

So, you see, it's the relationship among all those successes and failures that builds what we think of as success.

Do you think some of the musicians that you might love who are rock stars today, started out making things that everyone was just putting their hands in the air and cheering about?

"Men, like yeah! That's amazing."

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

The fact is almost all of us start out at a pretty low level.

Look at a baby.

My daughter is two and a half years old. When she came out she could barely do anything except cry. Apparently, that is a built-in skill.

Other than cry and complain most of us have very few abilities that we can simply do without practice, without starting off awkwardly, without failing.

I'm grateful that someone on DLive who was watching my video, messaged me today saying, “I appreciate your courage to just do what you love without having it conditioned on what people think of it or how people react immediately to it."

I've noticed that some of the songs I've just discovered and listened to, were recorded 30, 40, 50 or 60 years ago. I just realized a little while ago that Bob Dylan was the original artist of "All Along the Watchtower." Up until this point, I thought it was Jimi Hendrix and I didn't even hear "All Along the Watchtower" that often until I started watching Battlestar Galactica.

You can see that these things took a long time to transpire. My lesson that I've been repeatedly having the chance to learn is patience.

It gets really easy with this technology to get impatient today, to look at a music video I just released an hour and a half ago, that a hundred people have already watched, and feel like I've already failed within an hour and a half.

When live streaming the patience element is horrible because we go live and five minutes after we're live no one has watched, or hardly anyone, and all of a sudden we're like, "Where is everyone? What's going on? Why am I failing?"

That's why I'm planning and intending to put this video up in the very front of the course. Staying motivated, the mindset, is one of the most critical things because live streaming will trigger unbelievable amounts of impatience, and live streaming is one of those things that sets up a whole lot of failures right out in front of people.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

It's worth doing because all these things I've done that have gone wrong, all these things that have been challenging, all these videos I made that people have hated — I have a video that something like 200 people disliked and like five people liked.

Some of my first videos on YouTube were horrible and got almost only dislikes. Now, that helps me to change my strategy a little bit. When people are consistently providing negative feedback that's often a good opportunity to learn and grow.

Sometimes when we're learning and growing we may get almost all negative feedback. That's why it's really important to have friends and family that we are connected with who help us.

I'm not able to do this all on my own motivation and will power. I am grateful for the messages from friends, family and followers. All those messages help me stick with it.

I saw someone commented on my live stream and said, “Jerry, please keep doing this. I realize not everyone likes it, but I love this. Please keep doing these. Please don't stop ever doing these.”

That feedback is just amazing, and yet my friends did the same kind of thing from the very beginning. My friends watched my YouTube videos and thought they were funny, even though almost everyone else that found them who wasn't my friend hated them.

When I first started doing live streams the quality was very poor. On this last live stream, even after doing hundreds of live streams, the quality still didn't end up very good because I tried something new.

What I hope you can see is that we are fundamentally at the same point. I don't want you to look at where I'm at and think that somehow I've gotten somewhere that you need to get to.

You're at the exact same point.

We're here together.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

Every single time I go live, I face the messy ugly failure, and today it's just if someone is brand new to live streaming versus me, the failures just look a little different.

It's kind of nice if you’re new to streaming or putting a video up and you just butcher it, and no one watched it, "Hey, no big deal."

I put something up today and I butcher it, a lot of people take the time to let me know, "Jerry, this really sucks. Jerry, you are a horrible person."

People take time to flag stuff and send nasty messages.

In other words, the more people we get watching us, the more people we get following us, the more every failure is likely to hurt, the more every failure is liable to make us look dumb, the more we have to lose, when we think of it based on how people are thinking of us.

I'm grateful today it helps me to do this that I don't condition what I do based on what people think of it. I do it because I love to do it. I do it because I find these kinds of things helpful and I do it out of making a world I would like to come back to anywhere, where I wouldn't necessarily remember anything this particular body did, but I'd like to benefit from its work and its service.

I'm grateful for all the feedback today I get, even the dislikes, even the people who say, "This was bad."

"Okay. I'll try something new."

I just tried something new in my music videos.

We can see literally two more dislikes while filming this in 10 minutes.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

Today, I tried something new because I realized, "Okay, this background I'm on is kind of boring."

So, I tried a new background. I put a stock video of the earth rotating. I'll try that new background and see what the feedback on that is.

Every failure, every demotivational thing, helps motivate and inspire flexibility and change.

Ultimately when we look at things and say, "Wow, that's really well," it's usually the result of a dance that's been done so many times that finally, almost by dumb luck, everything just lines up perfectly.

I can very clearly picture having a hit music video one day that goes viral, that has a ridiculous amount of views, or I can picture my live stream with thousands of people watching, and then people coming in and saying, "Wow, that's amazing. You are so successful."

You see, the key to that is being willing to do it wrong a whole lot of times first, being willing to fail-fail, and even when things go well, realizing you still need to keep changing. I've had courses making tons of money before, and guess what?

Other people make new courses.

The demand in the market shifts.

I get banned from Udemy.

Things are always changing and our feedback encourages us to stay flexible. When we are demotivated by the things that happen to us it's a test of faith.

Are we here as a means to an end or are we here because we love being here?

I'm here because I love being here today. When videos get disappointing responses it's a test of faith, and again, I'm here because I want to be here, because I choose to be here, because I love being here.

I'm not a prisoner here compulsively putting YouTube videos out trying to make everyone happy. I'm essentially doing my job, a duty to give back to others and help others to have the same opportunities I have today, which I love and I'm grateful for.

After Dislikes, Criticism, and Disappointment, How Do We Stay Motivated to Keep Creating?

Thank you very much for experiencing this video which is a part of the "Complete Live Streaming Course" showing you how to go from beginner to world-class live streamer, that I'm filming on my website at the University of Jerry Banfield.

I love you.

You're awesome.

Thank you for making it all the way to the end of this and even if I never see any feedback specifically, I appreciate our time together today.

Final words

Thank you for reading this post, which was originally filmed as the video here and on YouTube below.

If you found this post helpful on Steem, would you please upvote it and follow me because you will then be able to see more posts like this in your home feed?

Love,

Jerry Banfield with edits by @gmichelbkk on the transcript from @deniskj

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we need the power to motive ourselves after any kinds of disagreements

You as a product is about to get saturated. There is no innovation. I took the time to notice you are just repeating the same thing again and again. Most people would watch a movie once, very few will repeat watch, even the most craziest fan will get bored of it after watching their most favourite film for 10 times.

Jerry, neat posting as my good friend and Jim Rohn would have said 'Persistence is the mother of success'.

Great Post!

You've been upvoted & resteemed by

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a free resteemer

Keep up the good work Jerry. I only have 150 followers on here so I can imagine losing 50+ really sucks. I appreciate and enjoy the content you post, so please keep it up.

Hello @jerrybanfield

It is quite unfortunate and disappointing that sometimes after putting our best, our efforts to make a cause a success, we don't get an encouraging response.

Regarding yours, I think that the fact that someone took time to like it at all, is an achievement on its own. This should keep you to continue to make more efforts, to continue to try; someday there would certainly be irreversible breakthrough.

@eurogee of @euronation community

Thank [email protected]
And upvote resteemid done

"No One Cared Who I Was Till I Put On The Mask"
While Bane a fictional supervillain isn't really the best example for an inspiring quote, it is a valid statement if you think about it.

Like nobody cared about Elvis till he became the King of Rock and Roll.

The best way to get and stay motivated is to have mentors we look up to. Great post though! Thanks for sharing :)


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How do we stay motivated and get through all of the failures that happen especially when it comes to posting on Steem?

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6 of Wands, Fool, Knight of Cups

Find your inspiration by being more impulsively giving (Fool/6 of Wands) to your audience. That will likely create more pleasurable opportunities for you to expand on (Knight of Cups) where failure can be minimized.

The Fool card here in the middle is suggesting the impulsive aspect. Perhaps its embracing the chaos of impulsivity (within limits, I suggest!) that allows the subconscious to better express itself and in turn possibly lead to genius insights.

[On a personal side note: You seem sufficiently giving to the SteemIt community as it is.]

Thanks for your informative article.I like it.

Good for you @Jerrybanfield keep on pushing Brother, you will make it one day. Just dont ever Stop or Give Up. You Rock...

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Keep on rocking it @jerrybanfield !
I always love how transparent you are.
You remind and inspire people to keep doing what they love.
Keep up the great work!

I hear hard work, a thick skin, and perseverance throughout this piece. No one ever succeeded by being soft or taking the position they hate me.
I enjoyed reading how you analyze your feedback and turn it into constructive action to keep improving your product.

Jerry, if you have failures, what hope is there for the rest of us?????????!

hello boss @jerrybanfield, hope your fine! So sad for your youtube video engagement! Somebody has on online they are no respect for a good work. therefore they are a victim of the spam and scam.

boggles the mind :)

Nice your post
@jerrybanfield
I love dlive

This reminds me of my current read 'Sometimes You Lose, Sometimes You Learn.' If you care about books, you can download it here

What is your opinion on doing Tarot for yourself or going to Oracles for creative inspiration? Ever tried it?

I don't know why people would unsubscribe to your videos, since you are my favorite person to listen to and learn from.
I love how sincere you are and you never act or try to be this big shot.

I am grateful for this video you made, because it was very helpful knowing that we all go through these failures, which are not really failures but lessons for us to learn and grow from. They do feel terrible, but that doesn't necessarily mean we should stop. Like you said patience is very important and motivation. If this is something we love doing, we should never stop because someone disapproves, but these disappointments are here for us to change something and keep on moving forward.
Thank you so much @jerrybanfield for your motivation.

This post helped me more than you will ever know....true story. I picked you for a witness a while back because I can see that you really do care about community, thanks for caring!

I swear I wasn't a un-subscriber, after viewing one of your videos I found some ear plugs and came up with a motto:
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(lol)

Great one the post my witness @jerrybanfield
you are the motivator for me as well as the best mentor in giving the views. I am happy and confident to have chosen you as my witnes and I have posted on the blog by inviting people to choose you as a witness
Thanks for this my witness @jerrybanfield

i'm surprised you still monetizing on youtube

Jerry i thought you dont do resteeming. But now you do. Quite misleading.

To be honest Jerry, i did not like your recent posts including music and you "dancing" in them at all. I found it to be a easy way of getting upvotes and didn't think it fitted your profile. Also you ignore too many people including myself when we try to give you positive advice, like i told you in the video with Black ops zombies on the background that the quality was terrible. This however, is a good post which will make many of your followers believe in you again. But keep in mind, you will keep losing followers/subscribers if you only post video's in which you are "dancing" and actually not doing anything at all. Which your status, you should be able to do alot better things on this platform. Also don't forget to reply on people like me that are trying to actually help you, by not doing so you are only losing real followers and in the end you'll be left with those hundreds of automated votes you get which actually don't mean anything. Good luck and hope this helps.

Congratulations @jerrybanfield!
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same things will happen I'm a freelancer at the different platform and also on steemit its very disappointing for me or other we spend a lot of times on such posts but got nothing that we are looking for sometimes we gonna heart from everything and just about to stop that things. You write exact and your video explain the real facts that I have faced in my freelancing career as graphics designer

We all have our ups and down. Remember great minds think alike. If they cant comprehend your art....well then..that settles that!! We love you here on Steemit @jerrybanfield. But you know that already. :)
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at first everyone get hurt after disliking or rejection but these hurdles give us lesson to find new ways

yes I think so because every post you do is very inspiration for us in indonesia

Why are my videos not showing up when search for them on Dlive! any advise?

@jerrybanfield when you get more thumbs down on youtube than thumbs up you get disallowed from suggested videos.
Someone is out there keeping you out of the competition for suggested videos, which is how you get discovered by the community and get the big views, by BUYING FAKE DISLIKES.
Its evil but brands do this all day long to negative reviews of their products on youtube. They buy fake dislikes and poom the review disappears. In your case, poom your music video is toast.

Hey @jerrybanfield and @gmichelbkk! I haven't visited your page or posts in awhile and I apologize for that. It is hard to be everywhere and you can only watch, read and listen to so much content in a day. It is amazing this post was made around 47 minutes ago and it has 708 upvotes for a total of $13.61 SBD has 7 comments and was viewed by 48 people. To me that shows that a lot of people automatically upvote your posts without even reading or watching the post. I would guess people are hoping to cash in on curator rewards and you can't blame them, but I have mixed feelings about automatic votes and the use of bots. To me it takes away from the platform and removes the human aspect. That many votes is not a bad thing, but when people aren't even making an effort to read the post or bother to comment with a real comment is wasting time. I know I respect you because you have always kept a positive attitude and you have always been transparent and you are doing what you love. I have admired the way you find different ways to make and to lose money, but you have managed to make more than you have lost from what I have seen. I also like the way you deal with the negative nay-sayers and haters. It amazes me how cruel and hateful people can be. Thanks for sharing this and I will have to check out the course, although some of us are not content creators, you never know you might find @fhstralow aka #Stradog in Gun Barrel City, Texas going LIVE! Thanks again Jerry and Michel.

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