“The pain I feel over my brother’s death is my last connection to him,” Kwon said. “If I lose this anguish, I will have fully lost him.”
That quote is from an LA Times article (https://www.latimes.com/world/asia/la-fg-south-korea-ferry-20160415-story.html) about the continuing pain and anger people felt two years after the Sewol ferry sinking, which killed 300 people. It struck me and has stuck with me since I first read the article in 2016. Now I wonder if he still feels this way.
"I know why we try to keep the dead alive: we try to keep them alive in order to keep them with us.
I also know that if we are to live ourselves there comes a point at which we must relinquish the dead, let them go, keep them dead.
Let them become the photograph on the table.
Let them become the name on the trust accounts.
Let go of them in the water.
Knowing this does not make it any easier to let go of him in the water."
This is from The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion, the memoir she wrote after the death of her husband, John Gregory Dunne. I just finished it, and I'm having a hard time remembering what she's referring to with the water. I think it's from an earlier section in the book, where she talks about how she used to imagine what she would do if the plane she were in had to crash land in the sea, how she would have to let her daughter float away without her, because she (Joan Didion) was having her period and sharks would be attracted to the blood.
Yes. Must be that.
I'm thinking of this idea I have for a reading/writing project that would involve reading books my dad read, based on lists he kept. I like it as a reading project and as a way of kind of walking in my dad's shoes. Is that not letting him go?
That is not a question I expect or want anyone else to attempt to answer.
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