Recently I've been hearing things on pushes to normalise or legalise paedophilia. It seems a bit far fetched and hard to believe that such a thing would be on anyone's agenda, but it the evidence is there that this really is being talked about and openly, by some.
Child sexual abuse is not a subject I'm comfortable discussing normally, but when what these people are suggesting is coming across as seeming almost reasonable, I can't stand by and not dispute it. It's hard to imagine that anyone not already a paedophile could actually be swayed by it, but people are being convinced. So I think it's time to challenge some of these suggestions.
Gert Hekma is a teacher of gay/lesbian studies at the University of Amsterdam. In this interview Marthijn Uittenbogaard asks some questions on his views on child sex. Reading through the whole interview you realise that Hekma is coming from a childhood of repressed sexual/homosexual desires, so the later things he expresses about children and sex likely stem from that and truly do seem reasonable to him. He is also aroused by SM, which is his prerogative, but it rings alarm bells for me when he seems quite liberal with the idea of sex and children.
Initially he describes the viewpoint of an author, Donatien Alphonse François de Sade, that he is a fan of:
As for Sade it is like you need to be forced a bit to learn what you like. We accept this in many, many areas. You are forced to go to school. You are forced as a child to eat your food. You are forced to crap and pee neatly at certain times. The child is being forced endlessly, but as for sex it suddenly is not allowed anymore. Sade indicates: exactly with a little pressure you learn how nice sex is.
Then he goes on to say himself:
I think you should force children. Children are boring creatures as well, whom you need to put on a right track one given moment. And this goes for sex too.
Okay, right off the bat, I can think of no situation where anyone should be forced into anything unless it’s going to save their life and how likely is an event like that going to occur? It's worrying that it is compared to how children are forced to go to school, because this is actually widely accepted; so too is not being able to use the toilet until break times. Forcing a child to eat is arguably not so acceptable these days. Now, this interview is translated from Dutch, so perhaps the word “force” is a bit of a harsh translation, but “made” or “pushed” doesn't seem much better.
Does a child who is forced to go to school learn to like it or find it nice if they didn't like it in the first place? Does a child who is forced to eat a food they don't like suddenly decide one day it's nice? Well actually they might if it wasn't forced upon them, but coming with a bad memory is likely to put them off for life. Then these people think it a good idea to push children into sexuality...
The thought occurred to me that perhaps Hekma was talking more about teenagers who are maybe just under the age of consent, until he said this:
Minister Visser said too, every age of consent is rather arbitrary. You can say at twelve, but there are also children who are ready to have sex at ten or at six.
Seriously?! There are also children who aren't ready for sex at 15 or even 17. Who's to make that decision? It’s apparent that he feels it's not the children who, it seems, should be pushed into it sooner.
In this video a Dutch politician is interviewed as he attempts to make paedophilia acceptable.
His reasoning seems to be that children crave attention and this must include sexual attention.
Actually every human being likes and loves children which is great for children, because children need affection. And there is a need for it to be expressed. This can not only happen mentally. A child is very physically oriented and also needs that affection to be physically expressed. Well, there are hugs, kisses, touching. And you just have to look at the expression of the child when that happens. The lovely enriched expression that the child gets with that, which clearly shows that children need this.
I can't deny that young children do crave affection and will likely take any good attention going when gently offered and if severely deprived even bad attention will do. However, young children don't comprehend sexual attention and no matter how gently it's done there will come a point where the paedophile will move on to penetration and no matter which orifice is used it’s going to be painful for the for the child. I can categorically say that at this point the child will be confused, afraid and pretty much feel betrayed. That craving for attention then conflicts with the fear of the pain that now seems to be attached to the attention. This is the best case scenario of paedophilia.
Very few survivors of child sexual abuse manage to have healthy relationships as adults. The damage is long reaching and forever with them.
What adds insult to injury is that this attempt of normalising paedophilia as just another sexual orientation is being tagged onto the LGBT movement. Gays are already being tagged as paedophiles and Hekma's opinions aren't helping them much. Then at what point do we want to cut off sexual orientations? I'm pretty sure that there are some people who are aroused at torturing others; surely that's a sexual orientation too!
Hekma may have been sexually curious at 6 years old, but that doesn't make it normal. I've bred animals and have never seen an adult attempt to mate with a juvenile, even a horny teenage rooster! Animals are running on much more basic instincts than us, so if attraction to undeveloped juveniles was normal then they'd likely be having their way with the youngsters. In ancient Egypt they may not have had an age of consent, but it was generally accepted that you didn't have intercourse until a girl had had her first period, signalling physical maturity.
With the evidence piling up on how governments are tearing apart the family unit, it's not becoming such a huge leap to wonder if they are starting to try and push through the legalisation of paedophilia. Holland is already seen as pushing the boundaries in taboo areas such as drugs and sex. Could it be the perfect testing ground for something like this?