Freewrite Day 516 Departure

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Here is how I left California. It took three years.

I first got evicted from my place of 13 years in Coronado. By this time it was two years after I lost my weight and I was almost used to my new self. But when I lost my weight, I lost everything else. @bxlphabet hated me and was off in his own world as an adult. We couldn't talk to each other for longer than five minutes.

Coronado was a terrible place for me by this time and I was ready to leave long before I did. I kept trying to tell him, and he kept not hearing me.

And then the house was gone.

I left almost everything in that old place, and took what I could carry.

I moved to a place of vegans and all of their vegan-ness for 5 weeks to take care of the kids. I was still in Nado four blocks from where I had lived. I stayed in an unheated garage with rats and no place to even stand up barely. I took thousands of photos and couldn’t think. Ghosts were everywhere and I needed to get out of that town so badly.

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I moved to a cheap hotel in a place of gunshots and crime and homeless misery in Chula Vista for 5 weeks. I loved it in my big hotel parking lot, but it was too expensive, and more than a little scary, so I really could not stay.

A kid tried to mug me and started crying when he saw I was old enough to be his grandma. My butt looks young now, but my face is old. He said, "I'm sorry, Ma'am," when he ran off.


I moved in for three months with a family in a better part of Chula Vista and took care of their mom who was dying of cancer with hospice care. I made friends with their pit bull while on call or working 22 hours a day. They had bad food and I almost starved to death while lifting and turning the dead weight of their mom to avoid bed sores.

The mom was really dead an hour after I had just left her in the eleventh week. I heard her death rattle but did not recognize it until I sat with her silence waiting for the funeral home to come.

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I moved in with a rich family for 5 weeks in a National City mansion, took care of their three kids, and did weight loss coaching. I ate a huge amount of gourmet organic food and got my strength back from the last place. I published a book and had to leave because they wanted someone who could speak Spanish for the kids.

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I moved to a very cheap rented room in a place in North County called Rancho San Luis Rey, with one of the strangest ladies I have ever met. This was a double wide mobile home and she was renting out two rooms illegally.

The other room had a rotating cast of characters and every one of them asked how I could possibly stay there. She had a key to my room and burst in many times a day looking for things she thought I stole while I was actually sitting on the computer working.

She insisted I leave after the second week and told me the police would come get me to take me where ever I wanted to go. I said fine, and wondered how she could schedule the police to arrive and do her bidding. She asked me if I was really going to leave many times a day for a week. I said, “When the cops get here, I will leave.”

This turned out to be an off duty policeman who was buying a used fridge from her. Since he was in regular clothes, I asked him if he was a cop when I got in his truck. I did not care who he was, I would have gotten in with anyone by this time.

He said yes he was a cop, and he did not really want the fridge, but he came to save me and expected me to be about 17 years old and trapped. We agreed she was the strangest lady ever.

“You can’t believe the conversations I had with her on the phone,” he said. “I’ve been so worried about you.”

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He took me to a cheap hotel on Oceanside Beach which was very nice.


From there, I got a room and board position for a thin wife truck driver and her morbidly obese husband in El Cajon. I was to do weight loss training with him. She was on the road most of the time in her long haul truck. Right from the start he was doing great and very accepting of my natural ideas. We got along well and he was a model client. He was gone at work all day and I worked on my own online stuff and played with the dogs.

After three weeks she called me one day to say she had left him forever and was never coming back and that I should let him know. Sigh.

A few nights later he went insane and started screaming at me to leave that very minute. I ran out the door and all the neighbors were already out there from the noise and they had already called the police. It turned out he is a felon for spousal abuse and so the cops said they would arrest him. But he did not touch me so I did not press charges. He left the house and now I was there alone. His sister came and told me to let her know when I left so he could come back.

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I got an actual live-in job with rich people in North County Fallbrook and took care of their 82 year old mom for twelve weeks after her hip replacement. They paid me a lot of money and fed me gourmet food delivered to the cottage I stayed in on the compound. I had a pool with a waterfall all to myself in my few off hours.

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I moved to a rental in Shelltown San Diego with a Filipino family for six months. @bxlphabet was living nearby and we were going to try to repair our relationship, which we did to some extent.

It was ok until the Grandma and kid left for the PI and then the daughter stopped cleaning and taking care of the four dogs who pooped and peed in the house Every. Single. Day. I left due to the health issues of trying to clean up after four dogs who were not even mine.

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I moved to the next place in Shelltown for six months with the crazy landlord and his cast of invisible people tormenting him. He called the police to say I stole his pants. I called the police when he pushed me down the stairs. He ended up in jail 3 times in the last six weeks I was there.

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I moved to a cheap hotel in a different bad place in Chula Vista for a week. One of @bxlphabet’s friends said his mom had a room to rent in San Ysidro down near the Mexican border, so we moved there.

The first time I answered the door was on the second day I got there. Six cops were at the door and I thought they had followed me from the last place. But they were there for the mom’s drunken boyfriend. The two of them made life a living hell until I left seven months later for Thailand.


I did not do any crying until I got on the plane and the seatbelt was so loose on me. This was the first time I had been on a plane since I lost “half my size.” Before this on my many flights, I had always needed a seatbelt extender.

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That flight was three years ago this week. I thank God for getting out of that place and over here to SE Asia. I only miss @bxlphabet every single minute of every single day.

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Note: This freewrite might have taken a tad longer than five minutes to write. But this is an anniversary celebration, so I feel at peace.

All photos are mine and taken with whatever cheap point and shoot camera I had at the time they were taken. This is with the exception of the last one of me and @bxlphabet taken right before I left at San Diego Airport. I'm not crediting it, but I do not think I will get any trouble about it.

According to Google Maps this trip was 255 miles and should have only taken 5 hours, but I am slow. I had to cut some since they only allow for ten stops per trip.

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This is crazy!!! good thing that you are a strong woman. Many would have cracked!


Honestly, each stop could be a book lol. Some with a few volumes.


No kidding!! That just sounds so bizarre!


It was. I wrote it while very tired last night and just re-read. Yes, this is how it went, and I am leaving so much out!!!


Write those books!!!

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You've come a long way @fitinfun 💕

🚨🔨🔨🔨 It's hammer time🔨🔨🔨🚨

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Thank you reminder man @wonderwop. And many thanks for the song which will now be in my head for some time to come! And visions of clown pants!

Wow that is an incredible story. The courage it must have taken to move in with people you don't know, let alone continue to do so after so many bad experiences.. I can't imagine. You show a lot of strength and your faith in people really comes through.

I'm glad you're in a better, more stable setting now

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When I write the book it will be called "Escape from California" lol. SE Asia for the win for sure. I am so lucky to be here. I hope you are feeling better, @johneyreacko :)

howdy fitinfun! holy cow! wow, what a time you had. I never heard of anyone moving so many places. And so many crazy places! wow! It's amazing really and could be a Hollywood movie because the characters are so colorful.


I'm a nomad! I have moved hundreds of times. But this time was sub-par to say the least lol.


howdy today fitinfun! At least it makes for entertaining posts! Do you like where you are now except for the internet service?


Yes, I do like it, but my water hauling needs are hard. I have to go pretty far daily to get drinking water. On my way soon in the middle of the night. Other than that, I am really happy here.


Oh you only drink bottled water right? So that takes alot of water especially in that kind of heat right? Yeah that sounds like alot of heavy work.


Yes, I was trying to drink the water in the condo, but it was making me sick. Now the water machines are all broken here except the farthest one away. I go at night so I don't faint lol.


Wow, that sounds like another good post too if you haven't done one about it. I don't know how you stand the heat and humidity!


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