Who is responsible for the life you have today?
I asked myself this question a few times and the answer I found is obvious and very simple, the person responsible for the life I have today, for the failures and the victories I have won, the moments of joys and sorrows, what happened so far or bad in my life, I am responsible.
After reaching a certain age we become more realistic and learn to separate the fantasies from reality, we begin to make plans in which we decide what we want to be, what we want to have, where we want to go, the type of adult life that we think it's perfect.
Time is passing by and some things change or we are the ones who change and make things change, but our essence will always remain.
I believe that everyone has a phase of life where nothing is right, everything goes wrong, you feel a disaster, you start to think that there is no purpose here on Earth, that even to change this situation, but it is normal to go through it and to think that ceasing to live will solve all problems. But if you think about it, you will see that we need a moment like this to reflect on us, to know ourselves before this moment and to make a definitive decision to get our life back to work and to make things change, regardless of the consequences, the only responsible person is you, just you write your own story.
Let's assume that today you are one of the richest people in the world, whatever your business is doing right and growing more and more in today's market, you have passed what has happened and you are where you have always wanted, you have more than what you wanted as a child, and then I ask you: Who is responsible for all this? You're probably going to tell me it was you.
I'll make another assumption, where you've done everything your Grandparents advised, studied and done higher education, earned your degree in a good college, took courses to specialize, spend a few years and you can not stand the routine of your work anymore, you have not been promoted since you were hired, the salary you receive does not match how hard you work, how much time and investment you have spent to qualify for what you have been assigned, you can not make the trip you plan with your family, you can not change car or apartment, and then ask again: Who is responsible? ...
It is no use blaming others, saying that you did not have the opportunity because you are the one who builds them, not complaining, it is no use creating stories and pretending to be a victim, it will be easier for you to be honest with yourself and do what is necessary to be able do what you want.
"To be self-responsible is to have absolute certainty, the belief that you are the one responsible for the life you have led. Consequently, it is the only one who can change it and direct it." (Paulo Vieira)
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