I think you need medication and therapy combined, but there's nothing shameful about seeking treatment, family and appearances be damned. If you need the help, you need the help, end of discussion there. =\

The medication you'll be prescribed will probably be something like loxapine and clonazapam and in therapy sessions you'll talk about things that bother you and get things off your chest but you'll also have a counselor who will help you learn coping mechanisms that'll, over time, help rid you of some of those compulsive habits.