The Speaking Tree #2

(Three sets of paradoxical needs that drives us)

Hey, Speaking Tree is back with lesson of the week. 

Three parts of paradoxical needs drives human life.

Certainty and uncertainty; individual and connections; having and giving.

First Paradox -  Certainty provides order. Uncertainty provides growth. Both order and growth are needed to complete life. You need surprises and challenges for you to feel fully alive. Too much certainty is boredom. But with too much uncertainty you become extremely nervous and concerned. Two sides of the same coin but you keep toggling between the two sides, causing a roller coaster ride in the flow and rhythm of your life.

Second Paradox - As a physical being, you are the only one of your kind, absolutely unique and individualistic. Both individuality and connectivity are needed to complete life. 

You want to be care for and cared about. You want to feel one with the crowed. To meet this need, you join a fraternity or a club. One you feel connected, you will again feel as if you have lost your own identity in a crowd. And, the seesaw of being tossed from one need to another only continues.

Third Paradox - Life is a flow and this flow is achieved through possessing and sharing. Both having and giving are needed to complete life. 

The toss is between selfishness (instinctive) and unselfishness (conscience). 

While everything you do will be tossed between these paradox, if you can find a few activities in your life, which fulfils all six needs and gives you that balance in life, you will discover a new zeal in life.. 

That's the secret to a complete life.

Source (The Speaking Tree)

Cheers :) :D