The Illusion Of Compassion (Featuring new author@kyriacos)

in #life8 years ago (edited)

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21.000 children die everyday from hunger. This is one every 5 seconds. Yet, a large number, a statistic means nothing next to the face of a single child covered in blood and dirt. So why does this child seemingly deserve more attention?

Exploiting A Human Bug

The human mind falls short when it comes to grasping compassion in large numbers. There is a limit, as if we carry a safe switch to avoid imploding emotionally. Great dictators and all sorts of “leaders” know this very well. A death is murder, a tragedy. A Genocide is only a statistic.

The News Media have also exploited this human vulnerability. Imagine listening to breaking news every single hour about the amount of children dying from war, hunger and curable diseases. Doesn’t really stimulate one’s “compassion” does it? Unless we are physically present in a tragic event, our brains are "compassionately handicapped".



Falling Short

It is as if we have a [statistical anesthesia](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-risky-is-it-really/201108/statistical-numbing-why-millions-can-die-and-we-don-t-care) that makes us focus on the individual rather than the problems of the many. This phenomenon is also only for short term events. We will stop caring about ongoing hunger and war but we will pay attention to a tsunami or an attack in an airport. As if this was not enough to constitute the whole thing a meme, compassion is also directly correlated to time and kinship. It has to do more with the preservation of one’s group rather than the generalised sense of emotional telepathy—as many wish to believe. It is up and foremost a survival instict that acts mostly towards presrving our own selfish interests.

Sensationalist speakers, psychologists and sophists like to speak about the “power of compassion” towards one another. Can we really understand the pain of another person? Aren’t we just rewarding ourselves with the illusion of compassion in order to feel better with ourselves? The latter seems to be true if we take a quick glance at the state of the planet.



Reinforcing Mass Delusion

Compassion works better when advertised and actively reinforced. This is the reason politicians, community leaders and other mass manipulators use words like "affection", "love", "understanding", “peace”, “hope” and other rhetorical jargon when they refer to compassion. They hack people’s brain for associating kinship directly to their own persona. Using the abstract nature of the afforementioned words, speakers are able to easily lure their audience into an active emotional manipulation. The brain is a fascinating organ but it can be easily hacked.



Mastering Self Deception

Imagine a westerner that has probably never experienced hunger or being threatened by war, trying to be compassionate for someone that has gone through these traumatic events. Even if one has experienced war and famine, one cannot be compassionate towards someone else who has also fallen victim of the same circumstances. The "compassion experience" for each and every person does not depend on the outcome of an event, but rather on the cumulative effect of the specific individual that goes through it. This is the central argument of why compassion is a filler word, not an actual thing. We are all individuals with a unique perception of the world. We cannot possibly emulate the totality of the experience someone else goes through

We like to build up social capital with our community as much as we like to hold financial capital. Being likeable involves marketing. When one performs a good deed, feeling good about onself is mostly due to the forthcoming advertising of such action to the community. "We should do something against injustice" the so-called humanist exclaims. Whatever that means is enough to bring people together even if the statement is as abstract as a Jackson Pollock painting. People will help but only to get social kudos from each other, investing more on their ideology and less on the individuals being assisted.

Take a look at your top Steemit community leaders/celebrities and you will soon realise that they are indeed mainly using vague, over generalised, inspirational bullshit. People fall for this trickery, because as aforementioned, we cannot compute properly the experience of another being. We are compassionate towards the idea of compassion rather than our fellow human being. If we were really compassionate we would all sell our belongings and help those in need in a snap. We wouldn’t even need to protest in groups since each of us would help individually. We would be rashing on a daily basis through communities to assist the needy as if they were our family. if compassion was really a human trait we would be in pain everytime we saw someone else in pain, regardless of their relatioanship with us.

We have found plenty of shortcuts to be hypocrites with compassion. For example, we upvote those talking about compassion, feed children with facebook likes and just maybe offer 0,1% to a charitable cause . These actions, create the illusion of compassion, alienating us further from reality and the concept we give to the word itself. Our deeds and practices define us. The current "exhibition humanist" can only survive through the mutual hypocrisy of others— hence why charlatans are more acceptable than selfish realists.


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poor kid

why not poor kids @paco ?

Just that i saw this kid on the news and here i see him again. So i single him out. But i do understand what you meant.

I don't think the world was always like this. I believe government intervention in our lives is the main problem. If the government didn't take so much from us we'd be me more willing to help others.

@johnnyyash

There was no goverment 100,000 years ago int he Savanna's of Africa and people still assisted based on kinship rather than compassion and/or empathy.

Let us not tinfoil everything under "the goverment's fault" . i am an anarchist myself and I avoid blaming "the goverment" or "religion" or "science" for some ills of society.

You were there 100,000 years ago?

I was not but we have anthropological evidence that humans assisted based on kinship rather than random fellow human beings. You can see it in your daily life as well.

Great post. I think many of us repeatedly fall victim to this and many other mind hacks.

The worst part is sociopathic politicians who don't give sh** about any other human being using human stories - the injured war vet, the kid with cancer etc to promote themselves and their agendas. It is sickening.

The mass media uses it all the time too. Very sad because we all know it and yet we get used in this way over and over again and we can tell ourselves that we are making things better.

Yet still millions die every year due to lack of clean water and preventable diseases in the third world.

These people are poor and have brown skin so they are easily forgettable to the modern world.

It would take a fraction of the military spending of the world to save these lives but nobody really cares enough to do it. There aren't enough votes in it and you can't milk each individual story in the same way.

@thecryptofiend

At the end is the fault of the masses. We allow the politicians to do all the bad deeds for us. I never blame the politicians or leaders but rather the sheeple that give them power to rise.

If more people are aware of these mind hacks, then maybe they can stay away from leaders, celebrities and the like

Thought provoking article. Compassion, like love in this world, needs to grow legs and get moving!

@team101

Perhaps it would be best identifying these kind of words as empty shells used by people to manipulate each other emotionally. This might get us indeed on our feet and help each other.

That was an interesting read. I like the definition of empathy as "when I can feel your pain in my heart."
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I like your initiative of promoting writers. I am a minnow and I think that I write well researched and good quality articles. I still haven't figured out how things work here. My latest post has 120 upvotes but it's only at $14.54.
I find it puzzling.

Anyway, great initiative by you!

@kus-knee

Empathy also falls short and is similar to the idea of compassion.

No one can feel the pain or anyone's else heart because life is a subjective experience, different for each and every single one of us.

True you are you and I can never know how you feel! Still we keep on trying! :)

hey kus, i will look into you work. are you on steemitchat. pm me there.

Yes I am, will do

People do not need compassion - they need real help.

exactly @vi1son

We are all hypocrites in a civilised world.

but we never accept this harsh truth. it makes us feel uneasy @creemej

Any Greeks here? @kyriacos

Agreed with much of this article. In a comment from another thread, you said empathy doesn't exist, which I disagree with. Empathy is an emotion that people feel. However, you are absolutely right that people do not act compassionately in a rational or literal way. Much of it manifests in virtue signaling rather than doing anything tangible to help the victims.
Empathy is more of an introspective emotion where you feel as if you are the other. Some people get confused by that and end up perpetually feeling sorry for themselves and develop a victim mentality rather than helping others. They also only express empathy only for people similar to themselves and even develop a hate for people who are different. This is a dangerous phenomenon.

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