When we were born, it was all smiles all around us. Nobody told us there would be tears later in life. Nobody forewarns you of the thorns amidst the roses. Nobody lectures you how bended the road may be later in life but then we grow up and see life in various versions.

The stressful days visit and a lot of things go wrong. The babies are not coming in the marriage. The many job interviews is not getting you the much desired employment. You are well educated and working in a reputable firm but in relationships you are a failure. The look in the doctor's eyes when he says the sickness is a terminal disease. The accident that leaves you paralyzed and bedridden or perhaps the sudden death of a loved one.

When things like these go wrong, people tend to ask the question, "why me?"
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This question is asked from a place of emotional distress and pain. What intrigues me about this question is to whom are they asking? Who are you asking this question, "why me?"
Take a poll around and most people will say God for those who are religious. Some others who are semi-religious or agnostic will reply that they are asking some kind of God-like entity or perhaps the Universe. >In the real sense of it, is there any celestial entity dividing up and dishing out good days and bad days, good fortunes and bad fortunes?

It is certainly true that something happens outside our own control but this does not mean that somebody or something is responsible for these happenings. Man natural seeks answers when things happen but why ask questions for which there are no answers?
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What if we are to eliminate the possibility that anything that happens to us is inherently bad and cboldhoose to believe that everything happening to us is always good. One thing I say to myself whenever I am faced with situations that warrants me asking that question, "why me?" is if not me then who? Who is more deserving to go through such pain and distress? Who are you better than? Who should be the one paralyzed in the accident? Who should be childless in marriage? Who should loose his or her loved ones?

There is a saying that in every cloud there is a silver lining. This much is true. Sometimes instead of asking questions, how about appreciating the situation and seeing the good in it? The same accident that left you paralyzed left someone else dead. The pregnancy you so desire is the cause of the death of the woman next door. She was alive just two minutes ago and excited about having her baby. The employment you so wished you got, the person offered the job just died in an accident while carrying out official duties.

Come to think of it, do you ask, "why me?" When good things happen to you? Why should you then ask "why me?" when bad things happen?
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Try to shift your thinking and reactions away from the victim-oriented mindset of why me towards solutions. When next you are faced with difficult situations how about asking, what makes the most sense to do now?" Answering this question is not always easy or obvious but remember it is better you ask questions which you are capable of answering than that which you are incapable of answering.

I am just trying to make sense from nonsense. This post was inspired by a discussion I had with a friend last night.

Hope you enjoyed reading.

Until next time, I am @zizymena

Peace out