The secret to keep going is to start over
Going forward without having resolved our emotional knots and vital injuries is not a good option. We must be able to travel in those internal worlds to shape a better version of ourselves.
Going forward without looking back is not always easy. Not when sadness weighs heavily and we drag with us the pain of so many battles with wounds. Sometimes, it is necessary to stop along the way to heal, recompose and even reinvent ourselves. Only when we have shaped a new and better version of ourselves will we be ready to go.
Thus, we can equate life with an embroidered fabric of beginnings and endings . They are two sides of the same coin, they are full of conflicting emotions that we do not always know how to handle, of fears and sharp anxieties that weigh on the appearance of new opportunities. Doing it in the best way definitely determines the integrity and quality of everything that may come later.
It is very common, for example, that after having gone through a bad time someone tells us that "we must move on." However, how do we do it when there are so many emotional weights and anguish inside us? We are clear that we must look ahead, but it is not always easy to generate that progress, that real advance.
Because the pain has deep roots and we can not tear ourselves away -as well as- to move to another space , to another place doing a clean slate and a new account. We must be able to repair and transform. To create a new matter based on what we are, what we have lived and what we have learned. This process may take time, but after that, we will give ourselves the opportunity to start again in the best way.
Going ahead with excess baggage is not a good option
We can do it. We can place the gaze on the horizon, put one foot after another and move on as if nothing. It is even possible to give time all the responsibility in terms of emotional healing . To believe that by removing pages from the calendar we will also be tearing away the sorrows and memories . However, a day will come when we will realize that none of this has worked.
Advance emotionally
Moving forward is not the same as moving forward . It is common, for example, that many people go to psychological therapy for help because they insisted in their day to move on after suffering a separation or the loss of a loved one, forgetting one aspect before: grieving .
It is necessary to integrate in our personal record a very basic term: to advance. What this word implies is the following:
Moving forward implies understanding that I must apply a new life strategy.
Generating an advance requires starting from the inside (without fleeing).
It is telling me that I have to accept what I feel, understand it, handle it, heal it and allow me a new opportunity. In this way we "progress" emotionally and psychologically.
Also, we must be aware of one detail : the sadness or pain of a loss does not disappear. Nobody can erase that kind of feelings. We must create a space in our interior and learn to live with it.
Transitions take time
Returning the head and heart to these states to move forward without further, often involves the risk of developing some kind of psychological disorder such as depression.
We must be able to mourn the sadness, to channel anger and frustration, to stay quiet next to the disappointment to shed it and get an apprenticeship of it.
Start again with a stronger version
The people do not change, we advance. The human being is transformed as many times as necessary not by whim, not by pleasure, but to face adversity and rise as a more resistant, skillful and prepared.
We are aware that moving forward is the only vital option we have, the opposite option is to stay stuck. However, let's do it in the best way: without fleeing from ourselves and from that interior that, like a disordered and dark room, requires our attention, it requires order, oxygen and more than one change.
Let us therefore start again on our personal paths with an updated, strong and hopeful version.
