Be Your own Friend

How do you know when to let go of the belief that friendship is worth losing? Friendship can be very rewarding. It's easy to fall into the trap of wanting to hold on to it forever. It is easy to become the kind of person that feels the need to always be there for another person - even if the other person is not feeling so warmly towards you. Friendship is a relationship between two people where they feel safe with the other person in return for being safe with themselves.


Instead, in the six-year old's case, he chose a bright red shirt with a yellow bow on the front and the words "will be your best friend forever." He wore the shirt at Monday's first day of kindergarten in North Fayette Elementary School in Fayetteville, Georgia, about 25 miles east of Atlanta. He proudly wore this message of acceptance and friendship. It was all about being a good friend to the little girl.

Be your friend. Let go. It's easier said than done but when your best friend asks you to walk on the sidewalk with her because she is afraid of getting hit by a car, you don't have to pretend to be her friend, right? It's easier to walk in the other direction.

Be your friend when you are happy. When you are sad or down or sad yourself, you do not have to pretend to be someone that you are not. Sometimes that just doesn't come across and when you are your friend, you are there for the girl and that means that you are not pretending.

Be your friend. Help the little girl feel better. Do something nice for her. Be nice when she wants you to be nice and try to get to know her a little better. Be her best friend and she will see it as such.

Be your friend when she is trying to get something or when you are asking for help. This is also another example of being your best friend. Your friend needs help sometimes. Help her figure out how to make the food or where the cookies came from and when she can't figure it out, she won't look at you as her friend.

Be your friend when you are hurt. Do not act as if you are the hurtful one. Be nice to the other person. If she is hurt, offer help.

Be your friend when the two of you are in trouble. Help the other person, when you can, with whatever you can. Even if you cannot help them at the time, be there for them in the future and if they are hurt and you cannot help them, be there when they need you. Help them figure things out when they are having a hard time, but do not hold anything back.

Be your friend when you are going through a bad breakup. Your best friend has found another person, or worse yet, they are not in love with that person. You may be tempted to push the other person away because you are mad or hurt.Don't do it. Be nice to the other person.

Be your friend when you have a problem. It doesn't matter whether it is with your child or your partner or with your boss or your spouse or your neighbor or your brother or sister. Do everything you can to resolve that problem and then help your best friend.


Be your friend when you are embarrassed. Maybe your best friend is not feeling her best about herself. She does not want to be on television, she doesn't want to stand up for herself in public, she doesn't want to talk about her problems at school or her church or anywhere. Be your friend and give her encouragement.