Emotional Bullying

Did you ever experience a person who is trying to get control of your weakness, who is a bully to your emotions?

Experts not only called it bullying, they also called it dominance behavior.

“I am sick of your guts.”

“Your face is so ugly”

“You are so stupid”

If you often heard that from someone who is constantly saying that to you, he or she is a bully. Yes, even a short sentence can be so mean.

How do you feel? How do you react?

If it was me, I’m going to get so pissed and I might say it back straight to their face. Probably it will end up with a fight (just kidding).

But how exactly are we going to tackle this problem? You see, when a bully finds their victim, they are probably going to stick with the same person and that might continue for years.

I was bullied when I was a kid. I can still remember how he calls me any kind of names, make fun of me in front of his friends and mine. I remembered he used to shout mean words at me when he saw me from far. Until at one point, I was too embarrassed and afraid to go out from the house. I’m afraid that if he sees me, he would start to embarrass me in public.

How do I cope with that?

Terrible. I am pretty insecure about myself for quite some time.

Then I turn into one. I go around with a gang which bullies people. Somehow, I am trying to have power over another. Boy, it was fun seeing them hurt and lose. And yes, I feel powerful.

Until I learn one of the victim is my close friend. It was ugly.

No one deserves to get bullied. Any unkind spoken words are cruel and can bring people down. If it is not stopped, it may permanently damage the victim.

I learn that if you allow the hateful mean words of others to bounce right off you and not care what the other person says, it can actually stop the bullying. No one likes to lose but when they do, they might just leave you alone.

As simple as it is, when someone throws any unkind words to you, ignore them. Better yet, attack them with POSITIVE words.

“You’re stupid”

“I know right. And you are so brilliant. I wish I knew someone who is smarter than me. Oh wait, I do know someone. It’s you”.

“Your face is ugly”

“Yes, I can see that, and your face is so perfect..."

Okay, I know it sounds complicated (some people may say it's absurd). But think this way. If the person cannot make you upset anymore, I can say that you are on the winning side. If you stop giving the reaction they wanted you to (because it is not fun anymore for them), they may well stop and leave you alone.

Assuming the bullying does not stop, please, please talk to someone and seek for help. And if they started to hurt you physically, remember that is not a bullying. That is a CRIME.